Tuesday, 21 August 2012
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Having Sex on the First Day
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Having sex on the first day is frowned upon by many, especially when a person may want it to be more than just a good time. However, sometimes things just happen spontaneously in the moment. Have you ever had sex with someone the first day you met them? Did it become anything more?The person I was with for a long time, I waited two and a half weeks to have sex with and we are still hanging out to this day. But more so as good friends now. I've had one or two experiences where I've never seen the guy again. I didn't even necessarily want a relationship with them, to be friends.
Recently, I met someone new and I had sex with him on the first day. We're pretending it didn't happen because it's kind of an awkward situation and it was very spontaneous. I wasn't planning on hooking up with anyone that night, but it happened. We're both single though, so no cheating. Some people think first date sex means that the person won't respect the other party.
How long did you wait to do the deed with your partner?
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you're a fucking whore, the bible says not to do that shit. i'm not having sex till i'm married and anyone who disagrees is obviously an idiot.
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga -
I did not realize we were being close minded today.
My girlfriend and I fucked on our first date. That was almost 8 months ago and we're still together.
When I was younger, I did that once. I didn't think much of it. We went on a couple dates after that, but it didn't turn into anything special at all, not even a real relationship. Later, I found out that sex is a lot more fun when it means something between two people, a connection. Maybe that's just the Aquarius in me coming out, but I enjoy it more when its more than just a physical experience. I found that out with my now-ex. I've had sex since breaking up with him, but it isn't the same. I haven't had sex on the first DAY since that first one though. The last time I had sex on the first DATE turned out badly too. He talked me into it and then took me to some place near his house (I was completely lost) so that we could do it. I was so scared that he would just leave me on the side of the road that I went through with it even though I wanted to back out. It was awful. He wanted to go on another date after that, but I just didn't want to. Surprise, surprise, right? ... I never slept with the last guy that I called my boyfriend, and the person before that was the ex I already mentioned. We waited a few months before we did the deed.
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Obviously it's consensual. Who cares what other people think? Let's not get our panties in a bunch over an imaginary line...
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - You're more right than you'll ever know.
@baggageclaime@xanga - “There is no future. There is no past. Do you see? Time is simultaneous, an intricately structured jewel that humans insist on viewing one edge at a time, when the whole design is visible in every facet.” - Alan Moore, Watchmen
I don't care what people think. I care what people do and how their actions effect everyone else.
The line is not imaginary to some of us.
Yes, and it ended up being longer than expected by five months. But I wished I had better judgement. Now, I wait.
No. And for your recent hook up, I suppose it wasn't meant to be as you are both feeling awkward about it. It shouldn't have happened. I like to at least know the guy a bit before hooking up with him.
I've had lust at first sight a few times where the guy was so hot that I immediately had the urge to jump his bones. one was this super hot bartender. a bunch of horny girls were already crowded around his bartending counter, and he could've had us all at an orgy
I don't like bars, but he was so hot that I had to stand there a little while to check his sexyass out
the other guy that I want to do badly is my boss, but it ties in with my office fantasies. I likely won't just have sex with a random twerp that I don't have any fantasies of. I'm more the type to have a long drawn out rendezvous of seduction lol than a cheap thrill. whatever floats their boats.
@P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga - Lmao. I love your comments.
Nope. I value my genetics, my body, and my future WAAAYYYY too much to engage in that sort of thing. We'd only been "official" for a few months but I'd known my husband for three and a half years before we had sex, and we had talked about contraceptives and him getting tested and "what if we get pregnant" a lot beforehand, as well as some other important conversations, etc.
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - LIAR!
@VampireOfSeduction@xanga - Amen to that
I have not had sex with someone the first day I have met them nor do I plan on doing anything like that in the future.
Having sex should be something special, not just something you do with any attractive person you spot in the room.
I mean, if it is the first day meeting someone, you hardly know them, so what would drive you to have sex with them? Low self esteem? Rebound?
I feel like you need to figure yourself out before you end up with an STD.
I can see a bunch of judgmental comments already, oh well. Shit happens people fuck on the first day whether or not they planned it, but if the person sticks around longer after who are people to judge? It may work for some people it may not work for others.
Is that two guys in the top pic? Looks like a man from behind. Anyway.
I don't think I've ever had sex with someone the first day that I met them. I've had sex with someone the first time we've hung out alone, but that was generally after I've known them for a little while. I don't think I'd be capable of meeting someone and have sex with them the same day. I know lots who do though and seems fine for them. With my ex it took us 9 months before we had sex and then we stayed together for about 5 years. 9 months was painful though heh.
@Guest - Some things could work for everyone if most people weren't such obstinate idiots.
@JusticeCho@xanga - You totally just ruined that pic for me.
@TiredSoVeryTired@xanga - who, me?? no fucking way!
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in all seriousness, it really bothers me when girls make these judgmental remarks that girls who like to fuck have low self-esteem (or some other undesirable quality). while there are many girls like that, there are also many girls who are totally confident in their sexuality and like to have fun...and in fact, i might even venture to say that they comprise the majority these days.
i've said it before, and will say it again: i have a lot more respect for people who are upfront about what they want. serial monogamists are really the ones who have low self-esteem. people on d-ish like to criticize me because i live a rather promiscuous lifestyle, but at least i am honest about what i want in life.
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - you aren't upfront. you manipulate and play mind games.
the onelb girl pwned you right hurr:
http://www.datingish.com/766283959/the-power-of-the-unspoken-connection/
Wow I have never had sex with someone I just met. But I have had sex on the first date with pretty much all of my boyfriends. I knew them for a long time and prior. I don't think it made a difference. But I don't think I could sleep with someone I just met. I need some kind of connection with someone. But whatever floats your boat.
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - after you admitted that you're not attractive, I just cringe thinking about geek sex whenever you mention banging some chick. there is a double standard that I'm more lenient when a hot guy talks about being promicuous than a self proclaimed ugly one. you shouldn't have told me about that part of yourself lol
why doesn't my hot xanga crush talk about sex more
instead there's you:D I'm picturing the guy from harold and kumar whenever you talk about your sexcapades and the old woman you're banging is peggy bundy.