I met this guy almost 7 weeks ago on a night out. We were both very drunk and we ended up having great sex. We seemed to get on very well together as well. However, he has been fairly inconsistent with keeping in contact like texting and Facebook messaging.
But whenever he does chat with me, we always have good conversations and he leaves kisses and cute emoticons all the time. At the start, he liked a couple of my statuses and then he decided to message me first after a week of not hearing from him. He has always brought up that he wants to meet me again. He keeps calling me gorgeous as well. However, it wasn't until 6 weeks later that we finally met up.
We got on very well together again (sex included) and we seemed to have a lot in common; he acknowledged that. He said that my friends and his friends have to meet up for a night out. He bought all of my drinks that night as well. He also said that I shouldn't worry if he doesn't text me back because he is not really into texting or he is terrible at texting back, something like that anyway.
He drove me home the next day and said he would give me a text later. He never did but that didn't bother me.
So I just decided to text him the next day but he never texted back. He was on Facebook when I was online and he never bothered to write to me. He didn't stay on for very long, either. He did that a couple of times a few weeks ago as well-he would go online and not bother writing to me first. In between those times, I have decided to message him first twice on Facebook because he initiated the first 2 times.
Anyway, he was the same as always and kept bringing up that we have to meet up again.
So back to my query about him not bothering to write to me first on Facebook and not staying online for very long either. Why is he doing that? Is that a sign he's just not that interested in me and is using me for sex? Or is he waiting for me to message him first? Does he think I am starting to become clingy by me messaging him first the last 2 times and then texting him on Sunday when he didn't text me Saturday?
By the way, I sent him the message twice because my phone is kinda fucked and I thought it didn't send, so maybe he thinks that's a desperate move? Finally, he works every day and lives over an hour away from me so he wouldn't have time to meet up with me during the week.
Do you think he is genuinely interested in me or just using me for sex? Be honest!
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Yes.
Pretty much.
Yup, you're his booty call.
Sucker.
Yea, if he were interested, he would make an effort to actually contact you and meet up and do things that don't involve sex.
he's using you for sex. the texting point is valid some people aren't just into it but that's not to give you any false hopes, from the looks of it this is just a hook up/fwb relationship. If you want to stick around for just sex, go for it. But seems to me that you may be kind of attached with the way you are watching his every move on fb.
I think you know the answer to this sitch.
This should be obvious.
time to move on. if the person cares, even if they have a horrible relationship w their phone they would always pick up or text back.
despite the fact that you guys have a lot in common, i think this guy is shady. i have a strange feeling that he possibly has a girlfriend. why else are the encounters weeks apart?Yep, it seems he is, but hey, if he's fun to play with in the sack, then why not use him too? Just don't treat him seriously, because he's clearly not serious.
Pretty much what everyone above said. Don't talk to him and see how quickly he comes around to talk to you and "ask you to meet up." Move on.
You could use him for sex, too, you know.
I'm pretty sure you already know the answer, but sometimes we just want to believe otherwise. There will be other better guys, move on.
Could go either way. Living that far away and working a ton would definitely be a reason to not want to start anything serious with you. Try hanging out a time or two without sex, if he completely stops trying to talk to you after that then he probably only just wanted sex.
@JusticeCho@xanga makes a very good point. You don't have to have sex every time you hang out with him.
I mean, there's really only one way to know for certain.
is it not glaringly obvious?
one way to really find out is to stop having sex with him on your dates.
herp derp.
@bluepillorredpill@xanga - Good point!
Having a fwb is always fun too.. It sucks if you're into him but he only wants sex, but if he's good then use him as well..It's only horrible if it's one sided. I've had a couple fwb's.. One of which is one of my best guy friends. I liked him for a long time, but we agreed on sex only.. It works.
I've also had a friend who I only hang out with when we both need to de-stress.
Yes. You're his available f*ck hole when there are none available at his disposal.
he is using you
Sorry, honey, but sex is all he's using you for =/
Sounds like he's only interested in you for sex. He probably wanted your friends and his friends to hang out so that he could possibly get with them.
Either dump him or just use him for sex.
FWBs are fun.