Sunday, 19 August 2012

  • Moteki: The Flood After the Drought

    In Japan, it's said that everyone has at least one moteki during their lifetime. moteki is some period in your life (ki) when you are particularly popular and attractive romantically and sexually to others (mote).

    Now, I don't know if that's true. For one thing, I hear about moteki most often when they're used as plot devices in popular manga. And if it is, I'm definitely still waiting on mine. That said, I have noticed that romantic attention tends to come in floods when you expect it. You spend your entire time hoping to catch some guy's attention, and the minute you stop caring? Bam, there he is.

    So maybe there is some truth to moteki after all.

    What do you think? Was there ever a period in your life when you were showered with attention from potential romantic interests?

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Comments (12)

  • Erika_Steele@xanga

    hmmm.
    between the ages of 14 and 28. 

  • T3hZ10n@xanga

    Yeah. For me it's all the time, though. I've gotten used to it. Unlike with drugs, I find it's easiest to just say "maybe" until their short attention span takes over and they buzz off and fuck something else.

  • P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga

    oh yeah back in the day when aim was popular, I'd get a flood of guys typing at me like crajeeee. like who the hell are you and when did I give you my sn I was a bored teen looking for attention, so I gave out my sn to whoever and wouldn't remember who was who. they were trying to holler at me via instant messenger window rofl horny boys giving me their phone numbers and wanting to meet me to hookup. the guys at my school were mostly geeky asians or geeky white boys. there were a bunch of cute cholos from other areas to talk to. I'm not into cholos anymore but I was attracted to them when I was younger. the bald filipinos were especially cute to me. I liked the mexican cholos or filipino cholo-looking ones. my preference changed after I met this really tall and cute prettyboy asian. I was obsessed with him for like 2 years. I think I was usually the boycrazy girl, who showered guys with attention, but the guy that I liked also gave me lots of attention, probably 40% from his part and mine was more overwhelming, which happens when I like the guy first and make the move first. usually guys shower me with attention when they like me first and I usually found them annoying. so the more annoyed I am of the guys, the more attention they pay to me. my current bf is the one, who showers me with lots of attention; probably 80% of the time while I'm busy he finds my missing in action activities or whatever exciting. he has a good imagination, so he just thinks of me away on my spygirl mission and awaits my return I find it exciting, too. there aren't a hoard of guys after me. I noticed guys at work glancing at me they don't make moves on me but that's probably because they are in a relationship, too, so the forbidden fruit factor sometimes has that grass might be greener on the other side selfish/horny desires guys that show interest or easily like me or it is easy to get with them don't really appeal to me, because they are too easy to get. I don't really like easy going guys, sexually speaking and overall. I like stuckup or difficult guys or guys that I can't easily have. hence my crushes on married men I don't condone cheating of course, but the single guys at my work place or other guys that I know don't appeal to me that much if at all lol well, my current bf was single when I met him but it was a journey to get where we are at lol lots of chasing and seduction then I hate him for a while, but now we've sort of reached harmony anyway my crush on my married boss likely has that forbidden appeal. I probably wouldn't feel so intense about him if he was easily available and single although sometimes I wish that he was single, so that I can directly flirt with him and maybe start something more I think I love hating that I can't have him:D it is like a pirate daydreaming about the wondrous hidden treasure that everybody wants a piece of but can't have. I wouldn't know what to do if my crush flirted with me. or I sort of do know. okay, I really want a hug. is it okay to ask a married man with kids for a flirty hug no, huh. I figured. if he asked me first, I'd give him a free 30 minute hug I could go on, but I'll keep some of my giggly glee to myself and spare the universe from imploding.

  • P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga

    ohboy that was a longass comment.

  • TheNotoriousGOD@xanga

    this concept of stop-trying-and-life-will-just-happen is a load of bullshit.  there's this silly little concept in thermodynamics called entropy.  obviously the context is different, but the concept is the same:  things don't just happen without someone putting in some effort. 

    @Erika_Steele@xanga - hahaha love it!

    @T3hZ10n@xanga - that makes so much more sense!  i think everyone here has always wondered how you've had so much experience with dating and relationships to give so many wise words of advice.

  • T3hZ10n@xanga

    @TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - "there's this silly little concept in thermodynamics called entropy.  obviously the context is different, but the concept is the same:  things don't just happen without someone putting in some effort."

    Lol... you kids and your silly entropy.

    http://x5f.xanga.com/fcff911771430282933161/o225580330.jpg

    As for dating, it's kind of like my knowledge of programming.

    http://xf4.xanga.com/0bef936a07430280242891/o223254900.bmp

    You don't have to understand a programming language or take a college course to understand the underlying principles and structure of a program.

    http://youtu.be/t9H3AP53ROk

  • Digital_Angel21@xanga

    I've had a couple of motekis, I guess? Sometimes a general period, other times a "night moteki". I swear I went to a party as a freshmen and every Asian guy there that night hit on me. And just the Asian guys. It was really bizarre. But if I have to be honest, second semester of my freshman year of college as a whole could probably be considered a general moteki, as I was involved one way or another with four different guys in a short overlapping period of time. I was a really confused person.

  • SparksFly

    I don't think I've lived long enough yet to know. But there are random times when multiple guys are hitting on me when the timing couldn't be worse. For example, I'm moving in a month or I'm in my crazy-studying-for-finals-like-hell mode and don't have time for boys. And then when I'm bored out of my skull, no one. NO ONE.

  • sunflowersforlove@xanga

    Right now probably haha. I am recently single so a few of the guys are guys who were just waiting for me to be single again.

  • pretty_inx_plaid@xanga

    i guess for me it would be my first year of college... guys would pounce on me like i'm some sort of prey. but i think that has to do with the fact that freshmen boys are always trying to get any piece of ass they can get their hands on.

  • crashthedr3am@xanga

    had it already, when I was 30 pounds too skinny. waiting for my significant otter now. :)

  • NinjaJodi@xanga

    This reminds me of a Seinfeld episode about Kavorka. 


    Some people have that worldly charm that sends ripples throughout the universe. It seems to always happen when I'm in a relationship (but I know what that's all about). Some people can just walk into a place and the attraction will be alarming. It may have something to do with their level of confidence also. 
    There are weekends I want to be left alone, but I'll receive calls/txts/emails from people wanting to hang out. It's like when stars or planets align themselves, people's schedules will eventually collide and make it seem like you're extra popular at one given time.
    Moteki is a cute concept, but it's probably used to describe a coincidence, or a person's overwhelming ability to charm others.
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