She was here before you; now, she's here during you. She knows all the things you're currently in the process of learning. She's the one he goes to when he wants a woman's perspective that may involve you, a sibling, or his mother. She's been labeled as a "non-threat," but her very existence makes you uncomfortable, in every sense of the word. But should it?
Could you be in a relationship with someone whose ex is now a friend and very much a part of their life?
It's a tough question to ponder. In a situation where you're getting to know someone on all levels, there are a lot of things to consider. For example, the nature of their current relationship, the cause of it ending, the length of it and the last time they were intimate. All of this should've been discussed prior to beginning your relationship. But entering the situation and viewing it from afar, are two different ball games.
For one, your significant other should make sure that you are comfortable with the situation. Granted, she was there before you. But, now that you are a part of his life, there should be a respectful line drawn. No late night calls or texts. No unannounced trips to their place (from her, of course). You should be the one they now put their trust in to talk to. This is a partnership. If they can't come to you, what's the point?
But, through it all, confidence and trust are key. If that's nonexistent, no amount of talking and negotiating will matter.
Have you ever been in a relationship with someone whose friendship with their ex made you uneasy? Should you care if they are still friends? Image Source