First off -- no, the woman in the image above is *NOT* me.
Moving swiftly along...
I find it unsettling that my ex-boyfriend may still have naked/topless photos of me in his possession.
I actually took and sent them upon his request post-breakup
(we were still sleeping together for months after we officially split -- a topic I'll reserve for another post!). Granted, I made him promise to delete them after things between us got truly ugly (breaking up wasn't -quite- ugly enough, was it, Jeanette? HM?
Granted, I'm sure he'd never actually do
anything disrespectful with them (in spite of how horrible everything ultimately turned out, he made an effort to be a relatively decent chap throughout our relationship). Granted, I still have a close-up photograph of his d*ck as collateral buried somewhere in my inbox, should he choose to [quite stupidly] do anything disrespectful with them.
A year and change ago at the MTV Movie Awards Ceremony, Reese Witherspoon said: I get it, girls, that it's cool to be a bad girl. But it is possible to make it in Hollywood without doing a reality show. When I came up in the business, if you made a sex tape, you were embarrassed and you hid it under your bed. And if you took naked pictures of yourself on your cellphone, you hide your face, people! Hide your face!
Now, I know that I'm not a celebrity. I'm not delusional. I'm aware that I don't have quite as much at stake as someone who constantly appears in the press. That said, my dignity is still on the line here.
All I can say is: Oops.
It seemed like an okay idea at the time. It really, genuinely did. But I guess I didn't stop to consider all the possible ramifications of sending a boy I thought I could trust images of myself at my most vulnerable.
*OY* Have you ever taken naked photos of yourself for a partner/lover/hook-up buddy? Has doing so ever backfired terribly? How do you feel knowing that these photos of you are out there in the world?