So, I've recently gotten out of a relationship with a young man, we'll call him J. J was a sweet young man, he and I had clicked so well. Or so I had been led to believe.
We were together for about seven months, we'd never had a quarrel. J had been a very caring, comforting person to be with, and he had us all (friends, family, and me) fooled. At the very end of our relationship, J had a meltdown and had to leave me due to a supposed "rut" he was in mentally, and financially. He said he felt like he wasn't giving me all that he could, and that he needed to figure himself out.
Little ol' me was very trusting of J, so when he told me this, I believed him. When he asked me to wait so that we could try again once he's not mentally/financially messed up, I also agreed. That is, until a week after everything went down and he'd found a new girl.
We had a round of words, and I'd called it off after that, completely. No contact, etc.
An ex of J's got a hold of me a few weeks after the fact, and I learned that not only was she not as crazy as he'd made her out to be, he was not the person I had fallen in love with, nor dated. He was someone completely different. He has an addiction to porn, and sex. I did not ask her to do this, but she accessed his email and sent me several screen shots that happened within the past week or so, where he was emailing other women for casual sex off of craigslist.
I should have known that already, he was doing that while I was laying in bed next to him one night, but he never did it again when I sat up and asked him what the hell he thought he was doing.
I am, needless to say better off without him, as befuddled by the turn of events as I am, it is for the better.
Has anyone else had someone pull a complete 360 on them before? Have you looked at the person you fell in love with, and gone, "Who ARE you, and what happened to HIM?"