As women we often have this inner link to our core that tells us when something isn't quite right. It may come in the form of déjà vu, dreams, or just intuitive empathy. It's often hard to explain and almost impossible to describe to get a complete understanding. It's a nagging feeling of knowing, but not really knowing. But we feel it.
Sometimes the feeling is followed up by action. Too often, it gets ignored. But on many occasions, it has been our saving grace. Some call it, woman's intuition; others, inner wisdom.
During relationships are when we are most grateful to have that silent alarm to put us on alert. It has put my thoughts or worries into perspective many times. But there is no one tell-tale sign that you look out for. It's just a feeling you get.
For instance, I can usually tell when something's wrong or out of sorts when I have this strong throbbing in my belly. Almost to the point where it stifles me and my heart starts to pound, as if I'm suffering from heartache. To this day, I reflect on that time when I knew my ex-boyfriend was cheating on me at that VERY moment. It was unreal. I've never experienced it quite like that before.
I don't know if it was my love for him, or our connection that put me on such strong alert. But, I was definitely on point when it came down to when, what time and what day he cheated on me.
Now, don't misconstrue my direction when I'm speaking on this 'women's intuition.' I'm by no means saying it's some sort of magical power women possess that tells them what's right or wrong in their lives. But, it is a feeling you get when you just KNOW. For men, it could be their logic. It could be a number of things that sing to you to be cautious.
From my experience, I couldn't have been more thankful for that moment. It hurt like hell to find out I had been right and shocked the hell out of him that I was. But, what can I say?
Has anyone ever saved themselves from heart break or from a situation, period, from simply having "a feeling" that something wasn't quite right? Or is it just having good timing and paying attention to the red flags that rescued you?
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I get feelings about people and situations a lot and even though I am almost always right I always try to ignore them and hope I am wrong but all I do is set myself up to get hurt and let down everytime.
One Halloween I had a bad feeling all day. It's hard to explain the feeling, but it lingered around me all day. I ignored it because I really wanted to go to some college parties ( I was still in high school at the time). I ended up going out that night, given a date rape drug without my knowledge, having my "friends" leave me on the side of the road, throwing up my brains, and having to get picked up from a friend when some guys found me on the side of the road and called my most recent contact. Thank God those guys found me (and didn't do anything to me) or else I wouldn't have survived that night. Now, every single time I have a bad feeling, I act on it. I will never ignore my intuition again!!
Your intuition is like your guardian angel, it will never lead you in the wrong direction. at least not on purpose.
I have more times where I wished I would have listened to that gut feeling, especially in the past. Those times I felt I was being paranoid and acting irrationally. Now, I'd rather be wrong than right and hurt because I didn't go with the feeling.
usually when i have a throbbing in my belly, it's cause i have to drop the kids off at the pool.
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Like someone said before, I always have these intuitions and how I predict things will happen with a guy it's eerily ALWAYS right. It's just a matter of me listening to myself or not. Had I listened to myself about these douche bags, I would have never been in certain situations I was in. I also wanted people to prove me wrong. I held out for as long as i possibly could doing it with one guy and once i got with him he ignored me. never again. gonna listen to myself every time.
@anndel@xanga - Sheesh! I'm so sorry to hear that! I hope you're no longer friends with those "friends." That's terrible! Something much worst could've happened and they would've never known. Good thing you were picked up with ppl who had enough sense. Thank you for sharing.
@ReginaYS - my mom and I have always been incredibly sensitive to each other and people we care about, I once woke up in the night and ran to my moms room TERRIFIED because I dreamt my teeth were falling out, that morning we got a phone call that my great aunt had died, I've had that same dream twice more since and both times someone I knew died. The worst for me was when I was at my friends house at a bonfire, I suddenly got an excruciating pain in my chest and screamed and screamed scaring the shit out of my friends who rushed me to the emergency room, the doctors couldn't find anything wrong but had to sedate me because of the pain and anxiety I was having. I woke up from the sedation 8 hours later to e told that half an hour before I started screaming my best friend who lived in another province had been killed in a car accident.
I woke up from dead sleep once with my heart beating quickly and felt like something was wrong. I called my boyfriend right away and it turned out that he was at his ex's house. I also had a male friend have a similar experience when his gf cheated on him.
@Trueinnerbeauty@lovelyish - WOWWWW! That's a lot to take in. Dreams are said to be a warning of things to come. I've had the same happen when I've dreamt my teeth fell out or snakes. It's scary.
@lpsk8red@xanga - Exactly how I felt finding out about my ex. It's crazy how things come to you.
I was going to call in sick during my last day at my old job, because I hated it so much, but I went anyway, and it was amazing, because my crush called, I saw his name pop up at the work place's caller i.d. and immediately my eyes lighted up
he showed up like an hour later and was right in front of me
he is so cute. so rather than being grumpy that I hate my previous coworkers, my mood was great and all I could think about was my cutie crush
best last day at stupid old work place ever:D my new work place has an even sexier guy for me to crush on. best transition to dreamier work environments of my entire life
I might've had bad intuitions, but I don't want to talk about them. dreamy mode now.
Yes, but I was in denial. It happens though with every relationship I think, because nothing is perfect. Something might feel wrong, or go wrong, it happens. It just depends, ultimately, if you can trust the guy. If he's worth the trouble. Though, when I do get that feeling, I do suspect that things might be wrong somehow, so when it does happen, I'm not all that surprised. I just have to get over it, and I think this is the most difficult part, more than even.. the actual bad thing happening.
At the beginning of the summer vacation after sophomore year in high school, one of my closest friend's dad died. Of course, my friend was going through a very tough time because of it. As an extra, he was forced by law to go live with his mother, who he hated - she had walked out on him and his father when he was barely a couple of months old. I remember one night, around 3:30 or 4:00 am, I just woke up for no conceivable reason in the middle of my sleep, not a fitful wake up with a cold sweat or anything - the light from the moon or something just woke me up. About a minute later my cell phone rung and it was my friend. I remember the first words he said on that phone conversation was, "Whoa, I didn't really think you'll be awake right now." He was in bad shape mentally, but we talked for a couple of hours.
I haven't been the best person ever. I don't give to charity or volunteer as much as I should, but my friends are my foundation - I am who I am because they taught me. To this day, I felt like there was some kind of connection between me and my friend that told me he was in despair. I don't believe in God and I don't believe in miracles - I only believe in people and our ability to support one another.
usually my bad feelings mean i need to fight about something, i'm just not sure what yet. lol, i know that sounds weird but sometimes my boyfriend will say something that makes me really upset, but i can't figure out why RIGHT away. or sometimes i can, but i have a hard time bringing it up. blah
@Insomnia_Pickles_XtraTomato@xanga - I know what you mean!! It's so frustrating. I feel like I always have to bring up these events that made me upset AFTER they happen and that makes the BF really irritated. However, I cannot left them unresolved, so it's bothering me too.
i know exactly what you mean about 'feeling' something's wrong. i get this knot in my stomach and i just want to curl around it and protect myself. i usually get it after i've been lied to (in a relationship), even if i have no proof of the lying. sometimes, i just
know. *shrug* it's hard to explain!
I get a horrible feeling of dread and there's a painful pang of fear in my heart when I'm somehow able to feel that something bad is going to happen. I remember being in high school and about to leave the school bus to walk home when I was struck with and overwhelming feeling of dread. It passed after a few minutes and I thought nothing of it, but when I got home, a wave of family problems and yelling and whatnot came crashing down. There was nothing leading up to it so it wasn't anything my subconscious suddenly put together.
That quotation is misattributed to Einstein.
Sadly, I ignored this strong feeling of something's not right and paid for it later. Lots of pain and regret. And a prominent member of the church staff, no less!!
Next time?? You bet I'll heed its warning. PS I think women are much better at this than men.
Yes. Exactly.
This supposed "quote" seems to be one of many fake quotes attributed to Einstein in which he supposedly says mystical or spiritual things which do not fit with what we know about his beliefs. There are variant forms of this "quote" on the internet, but the most common one found seems to derive from a book called
Planetary Survival Manual: A Guide to Living in a World of Diminishing Resourcesby Matthew Stein (2000). Stein does not give a source for this "quote".
The origin seems to actually be
Metaphoric Mind: A Celebration of Creative Consciousnessby Bob Samples (1976):
"Albert Einstein called the intuitive or metaphoric mind a sacred gift. He added that the rational mind was a faithful servant. It is paradoxical that in the context of modern life we have begun to worship the servant and defile the divine." (p. 26)Only the first part is what Samples claims is from Einstein, though he gives no source or citation and it fits with nothing that is recorded of Einstein's quotes. The second part is Samples' own observation. The two parts have been conflated into a "quote" of Einstein, when there is actually no evidence he said the first part and the second isn't even attributed to him in the original source.
This "quote" is fake.