Relationships are often defined as a partnership based on honesty and trust. To many, honesty is the very cornerstone that keeps one from falling apart. But, I've always wondered if there was a such thing as being TOO honest? Are there some things you shouldn't share with your partner? Where is the line between being honest and giving full disclosure drawn? Should there be one?
Consider this scenario:
You've been in a two-year monogamous relationship. Everything is amazing. You get along, hardly ever argue about anything serious, you trust one another and always maintain an open dialogue. One day you're coming from work, and stop to get food, when you run into someone that once showed interest in you. While waiting, you guys have a brief courtesy conversation. You even sit to have a drink while your food is being prepared.
You see it as nothing but what it is...conversation. While the other individual sees it as an opportunity to get in where they previously failed years ago. You notice slight things: touching your hand every time you say something they find funny, maintaining eye contact. But you shrug it off. After all, you're not interested.
Your food is done, so you say your goodbyes. On your way out the door, you're slipped a phone number. You take it out of courtesy, walk a couple of blocks and disperse of it. Not giving it, or them, a second thought. Therefore mentioning none of this to your significant other at home.
This is where my question reappears. Should you? Is everything that you encounter need-to-know information for your partner?
In my opinion, there's nothing to tell. If no damage is being done, why bring unnecessary drama? But, at the same token, it depends on the individual. If you know you're in a relationship with a hot head who doesn't often know when to laugh certain situations off, full disclosure might not be your best bet. But, if you know your partner would care less and not doubt your story and most likely laugh it off, by all means.
I was once told, "damage is caused by doubt." Not everything needs to be said, or you might soon find yourself doing damage control for the unnecessary. Providing piece of mind is all good and dandy, but there will be none to provide if you're not given the information.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying be dishonest. That's a "whole-nother" ball game. But pick your battles. Why stir up a pot that's not even boiling? Image Source