I have a good friend who is engaged at 20 years old. Her long-distance fiancé proposed after just 3 months of dating
. How long-distance, you ask? They met while she was teaching in Korea, where he lives. She's at college in Arizona.
Like many of you, my first reaction when I heard this story was, "Wow. They're never going to last." But it's been 8 months since I met her and they're still going strong. And now that I know her much better than I did, I have way more confidence that they'll make it. Part of the reason for this is that my friend has a very rich romantic history. Case in point? She's been proposed to 3 times
Okay, so they weren't all down-on-bended-knee proposals, and she's only accepted one. Still, there were two other times when different guys seriously implied an imminent proposal. My friend shot them both down, knowing that neither was the 'one' and that she wasn't ready.
Her story so far has left me with two questions. The first being, how many Datingish readers, if any, have been proposed to so many times at such a young age
. I'm 21, have never been proposed to, and am perfectly happy with my non-engaged-or-even-close-to-it state. But I also grew up in New York, Connecticut, and Tokyo, all of which are places that young marriages are extremely uncommon. So I'm curious to see what others' experiences have been.
Secondly, have you ever said no to a proposal, and why? Proposals are romantic affairs, but we never hear about the ones that don't result in an engagement. Talk about a cringe-worthy experience for all involved parties! So if you've ever been almost engaged but didn't quite make it there, I want to know why. Did you do the rejecting, or was it the other way around? Why? Did you know he/she wasn't the one? Did you continue dating after?So, to boil it all down - have you ever been proposed to? Did you say no? Why?Image Source