I hate, hate, HATE all the rules and regulations
that seem to come with dating
. I HATE having to wait an allotted amount of time to initiate an exchange, return a text message, etc. When I suspect that a love interest is jerking my chain (i.e. playing hard to get or taking upwards of a full day to respond to a text), I begin to lose any sense of emotional investment. In other words, I check out -- probably as some sort of defense mechanism.
There's nothing that turns me off more than someone who seems as if he could take or leave me.
I've never been one for the chase
Cat-and-mouse games don't pique my intrigue -- they frustrate, confuse, and exhaust me. From where I stand, the real
fun begins *AFTER* two people have openly acknowledged their feelings for one another.
If I don't feel secure, I can't relax. If I can't relax, I can't be
myself or enjoy
myself. There's little that aggravates me more than people who act all cool, coy, and aloof in dating situations
. Many of us care -- in some cases, more than we'd like to admit. So why the pretense?
In case this hasn't yet come across in my other Datingish posts -- I'm a straight-shooter
... super-honest, sometimes to a fault... a firm believer in directness
. As far as I'm concerned, if someone doesn't appreciate or feel comfortable with this, he's not right for me anyway. Might as well let my true colors surface off the bat. If it makes him head for the hills... ciao, baby
The thing is (oh, yes -- there's a thing
) -- a number of my friends seem to thrive on the chase
. The chase is their favorite part of dating. In fact, it may be the only part of dating they *actually* enjoy.
One of my friends has a habit of developing intense crushes on unattainable dudes. When they suddenly become
attainable and express interest, she immediately loses
interest. Talk about a comedy of errors...
Mmm, power dynamics... I JUST DON'T UNDERSTAND!Do you enjoy the chase? If so, why? If not, why not?