There's the guy you can bring home to mom and the guy you bring home for a few hours. The guy you can talk to on the phone and watch as the time passes and the one who hardly calls, just texts. Knowing the category in which to place them in is key. But do you?
They usually give you a hint the very moment you meet them. It's all there to be analyzed. Their appearance, posture, assertiveness and confidence speaks volumes of what to expect. Whether or not that's the type you're willing to deal with is completely up to you, the moment you say, "hello."
Mr. Right is known to have a subtle confidence that he wears. He knows what he wants and rarely shy's away from voicing it. He has his goals and aspirations planned out and is/has worked hard to bring it to reality. He's very assertive. Plans the dates, asks for your opinion. Calls when he says, apologies when he doesn't. Questions you about your day and what you have going on in your life. He's a man's man. He dates, but isn't looking for the casual.
Mr. Right Now is the sly, sneaky type. He exudes more confidence than he should. Brags about what he wants and plans on doing, but has no plan on how to make it happen. He's overly aggressive, only contacting you when he wants something. Dates are basically non-existent. He always wants you to come over to "chill." He has no girlfriend, neither does he want one. He's happy with just having "females friends."
You can usually identify the type when you've experience both. Though not every 'Mr. Right' might be the right one for you, you understand the make ups of a good man. And hope you never encounter another 'Mr. Right Now.' Unless of course, it's one of those really drunk and uninhibited nights where you could really care less about your actions tomorrow morning.
Whom has had the joy of coming across 'Mr. Right' or 'Mr. Right Now?" Could you spot their type if they came at you full force? Are they still in your life or were they too much of a pain to deal with for much longer?
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You can't just fit in every man into two categories...
Give it up.
Women are as blind as justice and only half as fair in their judgments of men.
You can't spot a man's type until you decide whether you're going to be a Ms. Right or Ms. Right Now.
The aim of human life is to know thyself.
In other words, you're as much a Ms. Right Now as he is a Mr. Right Now.
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@T3hZ10n@xanga - @Freya - This is based off of my observation of the men I've been involved with; in which I categorized. I'm absolutely aware that men nor women can be placed in a box of traits. But this speaks of my past and how I spotted them. Which is why I say: "
You can usually identify the type when you've experience both."@T3hZ10n@xanga
-I completely agree with you!
The aim of human life is to know thyself.Thanks for reading.
@ReginaYS -
"You can usually identify the type when you've experience both."Uh, no... you can't, as that would mean you've had 2 previous opportunities and fucked up twice, putting you right back where you started.
All men behave in the ways you just described.
well, the first comment is right. there's a 3rd category, which i call "god's gift to women", and is comprised of me (and maybe some other gents who don't come to mind right now). these types are super organized and do the shit they say they're going to do--whether it's a life ambition or calling when they say they will--and are generally the most type a motherfuckers on the planet. however, they acknowledge that it would be unfair of them to bestow their amazingness on only one girl, so they prefer not to stick to one girl, but rather give many girls the opportunity to experience the result of millions of years of human evolution.
so, to all the girls who have dated or hooked up with me: you're welcome. and to those who want a taste: i accept applications for a nominal fee of a drink at my favorite "date" bar in the upper east side.
in the interest of fairness, i'd like to hear a post on miss right vs miss right now too, please. (and i suppose i'll let you stick a "god's gift to men" category in there, too :p )
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - lmao will do.
What you're doing is assigning universal qualities to individuals in an attempt to justify having multiple men at multiple points in time to compensate for their various behaviors at various points in time.
You're better off picking one man and sticking to him rather than justifying serial monogamy (the new and improved form of sluttery).
I could just as easily say my girlfriend is being a bitch so the only rational thing to do would be to hook up with a prostitute until she calms down.
Same logic as yours, shorter timeline.
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - david gandy is god's gift to women
you admitted that you're not attractive, so you're missing one thing and you don't qualify:D unless you have proof that you're sexier than david, then your claims are false.
for me, i've just been able to spot mr. right now. for a while i was dating those mr. right nows but i've taken a long breather from them bc i do want to spot mr. right too.
I like the cute shy guys
then I make sexual innuendos and tease them. it feels that much more sinful because he's so naive and shy
I want to get them out of their shell and make them blush hard
already slutty guys don't really appeal to me. no sexual challenge. not that I'm promiscuous because I'm not, but I often like to get into their minds and unveil their secret thoughts
and it doesn't seem that appealing with 'bad boys' because they've already done it with lots of girls and see me as just another girl, but with the inexperienced or more naive, they'll remember me as the seductress
I don't like all shy guys of course. I have to see potential in him. it would be ideal if he had a hot body. some are way too shy and won't play along or don't know how to flirt, so I like the semi-shy guys with an inner kink
dennis oh seems like just the shy type that I'm talking about, but it'll only happen in my daydreams*sigh*
@P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga - you are mistaken once again, sweetheart. it's not that i qualify as god's gift to women. i am the definition of it. you find that pepper spray and paintball gun yet? i was gone for 3 days on vacation and thought you'd be ready by the time i got back.
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - you have schoolgirl daydreams about dennis oh, too
you wish you were him sugarmuffin
It's kind of funny how you describe Mr. Right Now, and I went down the list saying, "Check. Check. Check." in the back of my head.
I wasn't aware of it at the time, he was a good young man to bring home to my family, and he got to know and spend time with them, however, he did the whole, "I want to do this with my life!" but never went for it.
We've been apart for about a month now, and at first, he'd fed me this line where he was in a terrible rut and needed to figure himself out, about how he hadn't wanted to drag me down that same path as him. A week later, he had a new girlfriend.
Through out our relationship, he'd been contacting other people via craigslist for casual sex, but since his car was broke, that option was dead for the time being too. Thank GOD, because for someone who prided himself on never "cheating" on someone while he was in a relationship, he sure had the opportunity arise, and went knocking on it's front door, often.
Needless to say, I'm glad he got me out of that trap. When he told me if I knew who he really was, I'd think of him as the scum of the earth, I should have listened. Because he really is just a dirty, nasty person deep down inside.
Totally disagree with your ways of "spotting" the two (only two?) types of men. I judge people based on their actions, not on the thin line between subtle confidence and too much.
It's not hard, really to figure out what a man thinks of you. The key is NOT analyzing with your girlfriends everything that he says and fancying yourself an amateur psychiatrist. Pay attention instead to what he does, take what he says at face value (OMG he says he likes me... but does he really like me?) and it's easy.I don't just call anyone boyfriend material and refuse to settle with Mr. Right Now at the moment.
I want to know if they'll at least stick around for a long time. I'm not in it for Mr. Right Now. If I can't find a guy to call a boyfriend and/or commit, then I won't call anyone a boyfriend and just stay single.
I don't know if my guy is a Mr. Right Now or Mr. Right, I don't think he fits either because he's been in my life for a few years, but we aren't really serious although we pretty much act like an official couple just without the title. I have met his mom and dad and they both like me, as well as most of his sisters and brothers. I only haven't officially met two of his family members. He comes from a family of 7.
We just like to have fun with each other and enjoy each other's company and I don't see him as Mr. Right Now but a long time best friend, too.
There is true Mr. Right Now but I wouldn't even call him that because I'm not interested in him in any way shape or form. He's a 60-year-old who has come at me full force with his obsession with me. I know he's obviously going to love calling a young lady in her mid-20s like me his girlfriend to boost his ego that he "can" get girls my age, but I pulled this crap of calling people my boyfriend just to have a boyfriend back in the day and grew up from that. No time for settling and he's better off alone. It's just disgusting the mental image his fat on me and his wrinkled old balls, ew, gross. I've even told him that, too. I was extremely blunt and mean to him when he continues to try to pursue me after I rejected him a thousand times over.
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - I'm President of the Universe Plus Infinity and I have the ultimate power to revoke your title and ban all other titles, definitions, and anything else that doesn't comply with my rules that you claim.
@P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga - i'm the non-denominational equivalent of the grand ayatollah of the universe plus infinity, soooo i still outrank you. sorry, babe. part of your job is to fan me while i sleep, in case you forgot. it's gonna be *really* hot tonight, so please be timely, or i will fire you from your position as president.
I don't see what's wrong with not wanting a girlfriend. Some of us just like to have fun and let loose with no strings attached.
I don't think it's that men are one or the other, they are often in a certain stage of life that qualifies them as looking for one thing or the other.
Same goes for women. And moreso, it is the person who finds the specific "type" they want at that time. If you only want a Mr. Right Now, you'll find him easily. If you want a Mr. Right, although more complicated, you can do that easily too - but not if you're acting like Ms Right Now to others. It goes both ways. There's tons of things to consider too - age of both people, current lifestyle, hobbies, history, etc.
It's crazy to think that you walk out and you meet a guy and go "ooohhh mr right now." You're probably giving off the "ms right now" vibes yourself.
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - you're such a poser. you copied me with the plus infinity line. you better be sorry, because the only action you're getting is cobra venom directly in your veins! prepare to meet lucifer!
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@P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga - Let's be rational here... his name has "NotoriousGod" in it and yours is just "Doll". Unless there is a cunning deception going on here, or an Illuminati conspiracy [which I never rule out] the labels clearly indicate his ability to dictate divinity over yours.
@The Original Post... - any attempt to create categories in your head and fit people into them is going to be a difficult way to find love, because successful relationships have so little to do with the resume and statistics of a particular person. Instead of trying to look for hidden clues in the behavior of men, to use your secret decoder ring to figure out their grand plans, grouping them by vague generalities over a few observations, perhaps simply consider how they make you feel. People worth keeping around make you happy, and do it over a long period of time. That's the first step.
@Endrath@xanga - since god doesn't exist, then he is delusion, craaazy, and you're biased because you have a crush on him.