With the plethora of reality shows I've come across with the flick of every channel, I get more and more annoyed. It's always the same story lines, same surrounding arguments, and lately, the same denominating factor. Men who can't keep their "little men" in their pants and women who don't mind appeasing them when they can't. Then I study the actions of these very women and wonder if they honestly believe the justification that comes out of their mouths.
Can someone truly be content with being "the other woman?"
I'll be honest and say I've been attracted to men that were off the market. Even flirted with a few; that's where it ended. But, not everyone holds that same moral standard. Or shall we say...will power. There are women who don't mind the attention of a man who has a significant other, or even family, at home. Some even prefer it. And I've always questioned why.
What is it that attracts these women and keeps them playing the role of second best? Some, even convincing themselves that they are the "main." But is there no guilt in this cast part you've agreed to?
I'm not naive to the fact that not all of these women that label themselves "the other woman" actually made the conscious decision to involve themselves with an unavailable man; things do happen. Some may have very well been misled into thinking they were the only one. But the blame game soon turns when the truth is revealed and you stay in the situation, regardless.
Sure, they may have more to lose than you, but at what cost do you let that overshadow your want to stay?
I've heard men say, it's not so much having two or more women, but the safety of knowing there's someone (their back-up) who's there to comfort them when their "main" isn't willing or able. Mainly because he knows he can get away with more with you, than he can in his actual relationship.
You're already holding onto his biggest secret: the fact that you even exist! So at this point there's not much that he can't do that you won't put up with. He can just continue feeding you the excuses of why he hasn't ended his already standing relationship, keep giving you a time frame of when it will end and you'll continue to wait because...he'll leave her...soon. Right?
I'm not bashing what some may choose to do. But, I am curious as to why they choose to do it. I've never been "the other woman." For those of you who have or are, what keeps you staying? Why did you choose to start it to begin with?