Confession time: I HATE receiving oral sex.
Call me crazy - many people do. But although I've had people go down on me plenty of times, I just can't bring myself to like it.
It's not that I find the idea of the act gross, which I understand is an issue for some women. I just don't like the
feeling. I hate having some guy's wet tongue slithering down there. At first, it's too dry and feels weird, and minutes later, the whole area is wet and slobbery and all I can think of is finding a tissue.
Maybe the guys that have gone down on me are just terrible at oral sex. None of them were very experienced, so it's a definite possibility. But I'm not shy about telling my lovers what I want in bed, and I've asked them to try different things and to try not to spill so much saliva. And yes, there have been moments of oral sex that I've enjoyed, and I've gotten my partners to keep doing that.
Giving oral sex, however, is an entirely different story.
I'm not one of those girls who absolutely loves giving blowjobs by any stretch of the imagination. Blowjobs are tiring. It's hard to breathe, it's repetitive, it doesn't feel good for me mostly since I don't like 69 and our height difference makes it hard for him to finger me during, and above all it hurts my jaw to have my mouth open that long.
But I do enjoy it. Partially because it gives him pleasure, and a lot because I like being able to practically control him with my mouth through that pleasure. Of course it's not control over anything important outside the bedroom. But it makes me feel pretty powerful, and that's hot.
Many women I know like giving blowjobs. But many also, as they say, "give some to get some." Which I totally understand, as it took me a while before I started giving blowjobs.
So my question to both women and men is do you like giving oral sex? And does anybody else dislike receiving oral sex? Image Source:
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*In b4 the "well give me a try and I will prove you wrong/change your mind!" comments*
By "oral sex" do you mean kissing?
*In after the irrelevant "look at me, my comments matter" comments.*
@QuantumStorm@xanga - Just messin'.
I love oral sex more than anything in the whole world.
I enjoy giving oral sex. The sounds my partner makes and the sight of his eyes rolling up into the back of his head is a real turn-on. I love looking straight into my significant other's eyes when I pleasure him. There's this strong connection. And I can't get enough of it. As for being the receiver and disliking it, oh hell no!
"and minutes later, the whole area is wet and slobbery and all I can think of is finding a tissue."
Note to those guys: Oral Sex. YOU'RE DOING IT WRONG.
Well, if you're willing to give men in the future a try, you can always guide them. It's simply not just licking the vulva.
maybe it isn't their saliva, but your vaj liquids, because lots of stimulation usually causes the area to overflow or maybe that's me, so he might think that his tongue is swimming in a pool, which is suppose to be a good thing to show that she is turned on so much by his licking. who knows if all that wetness is her natural lube or his saliva. I remember in porn, the guy actually spit some of his saliva on her vaj because she wasn't wet enough. the pornstar looked very horny but she wasn't producing enough lube, so he used his saliva. she is either pretending to be horny or she has done it so many times that she dried up due to dehydration or both. most porn is funny, at least the studio produced ones are-I watch them anyway for comedic relief sometimes. you can give your jaw a rest by licking around the sides like a lollipop instead of jamming it inside your mouth a majority of the time. I don't have much experience with oral. this is what I've seen in porn. I'd have to be extremely attracted to the guy and like him a lot to be eager to please him sexually
as for receiving, I haven't had a problem with it. I've fantasized about my crush giving me oral
it seems that much more pleasurable receiving from a guy with a sexy foreign accent, because I'm thinking that his tongue can curl in different ways awwbaby, yes yes YES!!!!!!!!
Make sure you're turned on FIRST and in the right mind-set and I would say give it another try.
I love both giving and receiving oral sex.
I don't enjoy oral sex but I do it, though. Just like most guys don't enjoy going down on girls.
@Guest -
Love to give and receive; I'm lucky that my boyfriend is really intuitive down there and although it ends up pretty damp, just cannot beat the feeling of that tongue,
I like to receive more than give, so I guess we'd get along well.
I adore giving oral sex so much that I think I've developed an obsession with my bf's penis.
As for receiving, I don't dislike it, but I don't love it either. It's pretty good when I'm already turned on but when I'm not in the mood it feels strange.
Giving it, yes... I love giving it. As long as he doesn't take 45 freakin minutes to blast off and whine when I try to stop and climb aboard or something... Homie, my jaw is sore!
love love love it, i'm always surprised to hear how so many chicks don't
You gotta walk your guy through the process. Most guys don't understand that sexuality for ladies is different, because our nerves work differently. They have to do it softly, and they have to know what you like.
I don't believe in the "give to get" mentality. You shouldn't have to
oweyour lover anything in the bedroom! I absolutely love receiving oral, so much so that I've experienced the 10% most powerful orgasms in my entire life from my current lover's magic tongue. Also, there are times whenever he is loving on me down below when I will stop him and say "Get the fuck up, and lay down" because I can't handle not giving him pleasure at the same time. I'm weird in liking giving oral to both sexes, and sometimes I want to give and receive, unless it won't feel as good to me. Don't ask me why, I'm just awesome like that.
love it, well, depending on the person. the first guy i gave a bj to, i honestly hated it cause my jaw would hurt and it was boring, but with the second guy, i loved it! maybe because i was able to fit his all in my mouth? or just about? and i actually really really liked the guy so i waned to please him. and the first guy, even when he showered, he had bad odor, yea, that's a huge turn off. as the other guy was nice and clean :P and depending on how the guy works it for me when i receive it. the first guy was great at fingering and eating, as the other guy was just good at fingering, the eating out needed some work, but maybe i should've told him where i liked it? but either way, yea, i like to receive, but i dont expect it if i was to give oral to the guy, depending on the guy though, if i like him a lot or not.
Communicate with them. They're not going to get better if someone doesn't teach them. It'll help your communication skills in the bedroom (which sound like they need some work) and you'll get better head. For your sake and for the sake of all those with vaginas.
I actually like giving oral sex. It turns me on to see him turned on. Before the guy I was with I was a lot like you . . . the thought of someone going down on me made me want to vomit.,. now I understand that they were all just doing it wrong :P
I really love receiving and giving oral. It's just so much fun. I really like alternating with fornication and when i get a little bit tired in that department I switch and do my best to keep alternating til my girlfriend squirts. I love receiving oral because it just feels really good, of course I have had bad experiences and that was only because the giver did not like doing it as much. It will only be as good as the one giving it enjoys doing it, otherwise it's half assed, and I prefer no oral at all if that is the case.
I love oral sex. From what you're describing, those guys are doing it wrong.
Trust me, you only think you don't like it because the guys you have done it with have had no idea what they're doing. Wait until you find an experienced man - the fireworks will explode, I promise you.
When I became sexually active, I truly despised the idea of having oral sex performed on me. I thought it was gross and felt like some guys were just too rough. Now (years later), I practically beg my boyfriend to perform oral sex on me...because he's actually good at it. I figured that's why I disliked it for all that time; the people I've been with weren't good at it. My boyfriend actually disliked going down on girls but with me, he loves it! I don't particulary love going down on my boyfriend because, like you said, it's tiring and my mouth starts to hurt after a while, but I do like being able to pleasure him in that way -- he says I'm really good at it so that helps a little bit also.
I don't like receiving it. I don't mind giving blowjobs but I prefer to use it as foreplay and not finish him off from the start. My partner is pretty bad at sex overall and I've just never enjoyed receiving oral anyway. It's kind of frustrating :/
Maybe you've just had a bad experience. From what I've heard from friends,oral sex feels amazing. Of course i'm waiting until i'm married to do any of that sort of stuff,but i can't wait to try it. Some people have different opinions though. :3