Naturally, you worry about how things will go with the initial meeting. Wondering how they'll embrace you. Thinking of how the conversation will flow and if they'll have an opinion on you that may influence your significant other. The same things that cloud your thoughts when meeting his parents for the first time. It's reminiscent of going on several school interviews and wondering if you'll get your acceptance letter in the mail.
But remember, the fact that he's even introducing you to his friends is a big deal in itself
. Although he may be seeking their approval, it's more to show you off as the person he's proud to flaunt and include into every aspect of his life. Men don't talk as openly as women when it comes to the specifics of their relationships. They're not as critical or judgmental either, so there's no need to put on a façade as if you're being interviewed. Taking the more relaxing approach is your best bet. Though, being nervous is an understandable emotion.
In a past Glamour
issue, they stated the '9 Rules for Winning Over a Guy's Friends' with do's and don'ts:
- Stick to the basics, keeping the conversation simple and straight forward; therefore appearing less nervous.
- Keep the information your boyfriend reveals about them to yourself! Don't be the reason for the breaking of brotherhood bond.
- Keep the PDA and nicknames to a minimum or nonexistent. Avoid making them feel uncomfortable.
- Control your alcohol intake. No one likes an uncontrollable drunk.
- Keep the verbal sparring out of the expense of your man, to avoid doing any damage control later.
- Actually listen to his friends' jokes; don't just laugh to laugh.
- Remember that guys have female friends too. Get to know them.
- Don't over analyze his friends and start comparing them to him.
- Enjoy yourself, but don't jump ahead of yourself. They just met you, save the trip planning for months down the line.
Now, 2-5 and 7-9 I actually agree with. The others may make you come off too much like someone you're not. One thing the magazine failed to list, which I'm putting as #1 and making it a list of 10, is BE YOURSELF! Your s/o obvious has no problem with the person you are, so why change it?
When being introduced to ANYONE I'm usually more shy than normal and on guard, to catch a feel for them. I've met friends of exes. None have ever curved the direction of my relationship at the time. That usually happened on its own.