I've always been a heart-over-mind, go-with-your-gut
kind of gal.
In regards to their relationships, I've heard several people say, "We were just friends; and then, one day, something changed..." Although there's something beautiful about this concept, truthfully, it's completely alien to my sensibilities. Attraction clunks me over the head -- hard and fast. If sparks don't fly right away, I rarely (if ever) become
attracted later on.
Call me short-sighted, but for me, personally, I don't believe in giving attraction an opportunity to take root.
It's either present (and palpable) from the get-go or it never was and therefore, never will be.
Any time I've *ever* tried to, "give someone a chance," I've ended up a) hurting and/or confusing him and b) putting myself in an extremely awkward position. It just. doesn't. work.
Yes, it takes time for relationships to grow. Yes, trust and true intimacy come gradually even when chemistry is instantaneous
. But within about ten seconds of meeting someone, I can almost always tell if he and I have the potential for sexual/romantic compatibility
My attraction barometer: When he casually (albeit strategically -- yeah, that's right, I know what you're doing
) places his hand on my arm, shoulder, or lower back, do I reflexively shrink away
? Or do I *want* his hand there
If the answer is the former -- I'm done. Period. Sorry, Charlie.
But if the answer is the latter -- I'm intrigued enough to feel matters out!
I don't believe in love at first
sight, but I *do* believe in recognizing the capacity for love at first sight
My intuition is my compass; it rarely misguides me! Do you experience attraction immediately? Or do you find yourself falling for people slowly, over time?