It's become a recent phenomenon amongst women, a movement if you will, where women are embracing their natural hair and ridding themselves of the chemical damages of relaxers. Some are even going as far as no longer sporting weaves, wigs, or clip-ons. YouTube is flooded with videos for women of all races willing to help with your transformation. But throughout this whole process, not much is asked of the opinion of the men who see them after the transformation.
I've personally never had a relaxer and only wore a weave for my high school prom and college graduation. So, I don't know the freedom so many women bathe in when they no longer have to go through this process of beautifying themselves. But, from several questions, I was surprised at how many men actually pay close attention to how women wear their hair.
I got quite specific when I asked a friend of mine his thoughts on relaxers, weaves, wigs and hair in its natural state:
Are you currently in a relationship?
No, completely single.
When you look for a woman who interests you physically, how much of a factor does the state of her hair play?
"As far as...is it done? Or if it's hers or not?"
Specifically, if it's hers, a weave, wig, or if she's natural.
"Oh okay! Well, I personally will notice only if it's not done because it shows how much she cares about her appearance. But, typically, I'm more attracted to a woman who doesn't wear weaves. Whether it's a perm or not, that doesn't really bother me. But I'd prefer her to not have a weave or added things along the way."
Why is that? What does her hair have to do with your attraction?
"It's not so much that it has to do with the attraction. I could be attracted to the bum on the street, just because I liked her smile when she asked me for change. It's more about her being comfortable with herself. I've noticed too many women need things to hide behind in order to feel good enough to walk outside their doors. It's not just hair, it's makeup as well. I'd rather see you in your natural beauty. Don't get me wrong, I'm all for the wanting to dress up and feel good about yourself. But not to the point where you're not recognizable. The rest is just extra."
Well there you have it ladies. I've wondered about this for quite some time and needed to hear a man's perspective. This is just ONE man of course. I know other men who couldn't care less either way. But do you agree with him?
Are weaves, clip-ons, etc. just an addition to hinder a woman's beauty or a way that most use to enhance it? Should men care what you do with your hair?