Monday, 30 July 2012
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Leaving a Dream Job Because it Negatively Impacts Your Dating Life
So I'm about to quit my job. Actually, it's a career which I received a BS for in college. I make great money, and it's so easy and laid back that I can get by with doing only 3 legitimate hours of work a day.
Sounds like a dream job right? Well, it is. The problem here lies in my dating life. I spend all day in a manufacturing plant, where there is not one cute girl.
Okay, fine, so there aren't chicks at my job; lots of people have that problem. Combine that with the fact I haven't dated in about 2 years after trying really hard (dating sites, hanging with friends, going out, talking to random strangers).
I've come to the conclusion that I need to put myself in a different environment.
I do have entrepreneurial ambitions as well which also weigh in on this, but having not been able to 'pick up' a date for so long is definitely a huge driving factor in my decision.I mean I love manufacturing and understanding how things are made and how they flow through engineered processes, but not getting any action is absolutely unacceptable.
Would you leave a good job because your dating life is, well, non-existent?
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"Would you leave a good job because your dating life is, well, non-existent?"
No. I don't define my happiness or self-worth by who is hanging on my arm. If that's your gig, then by all means, sacrifice your dreams for dating prospects.
Orrrrrr you could just sign up for an online dating service...
Some people are career driven; others are relationship driven. You can always ask for less hours or a different schedule so you can balance your life better. Sometimes, you just really have to have the right timing for things to happen. As for me, no. Things fit in where they are supposed to. You just have to figure out how to arrange them.
do you really wanna date someone from work?
Your problem isn't your job.
I'll just leave it at that.You just need to get out. Seriously.
I wouldn't date people in my work anyway,It isn't good form imo.You need to stop blaming small things...I could understand if your job took up all of your time, but as you said, this one does not.You have to make things happen, you can't expect them to happen. The problem lies within you, not your job.
I wouldn't quit a good job. Plus I woudn't date anyone that I worked with.
Just get out and meet more people. Ask friends to set you up. Join meetup groups. Go to a lot of after work events
i work in a male-dominated field and have male-dominated hobbies. yet, i seem to do just fine for myself in the ladies department. as @PrisonerxOfxLove@xanga so eloquently put it...the problem isn't your job.
you don't want to bang chicks at work, anyway. that's an hr suit waiting to happen.
Um, if you are suggesting you are going to quit your job in hopes of working elsewhere and finding someone to date at work...well, that's not advisable. Most places have rules about dating among coworkers and a lot won't allow it between one who might have any authority over the other. Unless you get a job that allows for non-professional (flirty) banter with customers, I don't see how leaving your job will help your dating life. I get if you are spending too much time at work and don't have TIME to date, but it doesn't sound like it at all.
So basically, this sounds really dumb.
Bad idea. If you've tried dating sites, etc, than what makes you think you'll meet girls at a different job? Why not join a spin class, or take up a hobby? Your problem isn't your job.
Well, that doesn't sound like a great idea. It doesn't sound like you're spending all your waking hours at work. Perhaps you can get some new hobbies, spend time with friends, etc, you may meet new women while you're out and about. I never dated someone I worked with, but hearing from friends, it is not a good idea to date coworkers. Dating does not pay the bills, since you've got a job you like and paid a satisfactory amount, I suggest you look for romance some place other than work.
@Pertaining2me@xanga - agreed.
congratulations now more women don't want to date you.
Lose weight. If that isn't the issue, then quit being a bitch and fucking explore the world a bit. You aren't even trying.
not really a good idea. women like guys With J-O-B-S. Also, dating someone from work can be risky.
I'm sorry but that sounds like the WORST IDEA EVER! You're basically quitting for fun.
I totally respect that it's just not the environment you want to be in, but there are other ways of meeting girls and would you really want to date co-workers? I mean if you have another great job lined up i guess that's great! But otherwise, it's not really a quite your job for fun economy!
quitting a great job to find another one just to meet someone at work...Yea, that sounds like a great idea!
Thank you all for your honest input.
Just spent my mid-twenties dissatisfied with my love life and I refuse
to sit at a comfy job as my late twenties make me more bitter towards
love.
Women prefer men with jobs? That's cool, never helped me.
It's not like I just thought of doing this one day... but over time it
just ate away at me; the failure I have experienced with women is just
huge. From my experience, being employed, being in shape (I go to the
gym), being honest, and being intelligent is just not what
attracts. I've tried to raise myself to be someone that is attractive,
but I've been completely wrong. So, drastic changes in my life must
occur.
And I completely agree that this decision is a bad idea. But sometimes in
life, a bad idea is the best option you have and you have no choice but
to remain optimistic.
@c0bra94 - No disrespect meant, but this sounds more and more like an attitude problem and less like a situational one.
If you're employed, in shape, honest, intelligent, and in venues/places where you meet people and you haven't found someone to be in a relationship with, changing jobs and lifestyles isn't going to help. Changing the way you view life/yourself/etc and the way you interact with others will, and that change can happen with or without this job (although, without it, you'll have to find another way to pay the rent and it sounds like this job is a good fit for you).
You can look great on paper and still be missing something key in practice. Figure out what you're missing and you'll do fantastic.
It's not your job, it's your attitude. From reading your post and your comments, I wouldn't want to date you either. Be more positive, stop acting like it's a life necessity to have a partner and appreciate what you have. I would do anything to do have a job with full-time hours, let alone one lets me do barely anything and still pays me each month. Stop bitching and change your attitude and outlook, it'll do you a world of good.
It depends on how your chances to get a new job are, or how your financial situation is (maybe you inherited money or something and aren't in need of a monthly wage, but i don't assume that). Don't assume life is easy because maybe someone told you are smart. you are not irreplacable in the working world. Other people have the same ideas a you and start the same sort of business.
I don't think you have to meet your partner in the working environment. In fact, I think it hold many risks for the relationship when you work together too. I wouldn't do it.
Are you mental? Unless there is some other factor unrelated to dating involved, you really shouldn't leave your job! Two years is NOT THAT LONG to be single.
It's also not that long to be unwillingly out of employment because you just can't find/get hired for a job.
Think about it.
I find it funny that he thinks not having a job will get him laid!!!
I find it funny that he thinks not having a job will get him laid!!!