Sunday, 29 July 2012
Recently, I've been thinking about whether or not good-looking people make equally good pleasure partners. I say this based on my (admittedly limited) experiences with two attractive guys. They were both definitely more experienced than me (we talked about our pasts) yet incredibly so-so with their techniques.
For example, a good ol' makeout session: Guy 1 was way too aggressive and sloppy even after I told him so (alas, me trying to lead him just led to more of the same) and Guy 2 was basically a limp fish, passive until I kissed him and even then very blah with his interaction. Being a HUGE romantic (books and movies have maybe ruined me for life), I *might* have had some unrealistic expectations about how skilled attractive guys should be, but I didn't think they were that unrealistic.
I had great chemistry with both of them - intellectual, emotional, and physical with Guy 1 (we were in a relationship for a short time) and mostly just physical with Guy 2 (yes, hookup, though we had a longer history of being sort-of friends/flirts). Considering I didn't have much experience myself, I warned them beforehand and kept up that open communication channel during and after (because honesty is a big thing for me).
In this way I could learn, so to speak, and they wouldn't be offended if I had any critiques. (Before you start about "discussion" ruining the mood, I went on to have more "sessions" with both of them, so I seriously doubt there was a negative impact on their libidos.) Welp, they didn't have much to teach me and didn't do much for me in that sense (one of the reasons things obviously didn't last with either guy), and I've been wondering ever since if good-looking people are really as sexually able as they're stereotyped to be.
A short scene from one of my favorite movies, Ten Inch Hero, has the shop owner, cook, and hot waitress arguing about looks and how truly indicative they are of one's abilities in bed. Both the shop owner and cook think good-looking women (and by extension, good-looking people in general) are fairly mediocre in bed (C grade) because they don't have to try so hard.
The guy is so grateful to just have her with him that he doesn't care, so the beautiful woman goes through life blissfully unaware of her lack of prowess in the sack. Of course, the waitress argues that's not so because she thinks she's hot shit, but if you watch the rest of the movie, she's kinda wrong.
So, readers, I ask: In your opinion, do you think there is validity to the stereotype of attractive people (however you define good looks) making great lovers? I'd love to hear about your perspectives, especially if you wouldn't mind sharing stories from personal experience.
As always, thanks for your consideration!