Friday, 27 July 2012
Every other day you wake up thinking of another excuse to tell your friends and family. How do I distract them this week? Next week it won't be the same. He was just angry. I provoked him, that's all. You go through a mental check list of things to avoid so you won't set off the switch that moves his fist forward, making you his main target. You've become his human punching bag.At first everything was great. He listened to you. You went out all the time. He made you smile and forget everything. Then, like a twig, he snapped and you find excuse after excuse as to why he is the way he is. Rationalizing YOUR actions, instead of pointing out his own. I love him, you continuously tell yourself. I know he loves me. He hasn't always been like this. He just gets angry sometimes.It starts and goes on for weeks. Weeks turn to months and sometimes years. Until you run out of excuses. There's only so many walls you can run into. So many games you can attend that balls find their way to your face. How clumsy can you be that you're constantly falling down stairs? You'd rather make yourself look weak, than him feel small.I've seen it so many times, heard too many stories to count. Women who react too much with their hearts that they forget to think with their heads, to realize what's really going on around them. For some, it may be generational. They've seen it throughout their lives and think it's the norm; they know nothing else. For others, either love is truly blind or they don't know their self worth to care about anything other than just having someone.But how long can a relationship like this last? How many times can you talk yourself back into a bed with someone who doesn't value you enough to keep you from turning black in blue from the brutal force of their fist?
How do you talk to someone whose heart is so caught up in a situation, that they've lost their head and sense of self? Have many of you ever been in or tried to help someone get out of such a destructive relationship?