"I don't want to force him to do something, but I do want my needs to be met."

From what you've said, your needs are met.

http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/need

"When we are laying in bed and I close my eyes it feels like we are miles and miles apart from each other"

That sounds like a medical condition if you ask me.

When I'm laying in bed and I close my eyes, the person I want to be with more than anything IS miles and miles away.

"I feel very rejected and I feel like I'm going to spend my whole life waiting for him to grow up and get on my level."

How rejected do you think he would feel if he knew you felt he should "grow up"... not to mention that you feel as though he's not on 'your level'.

Women are so blind to their own egotism.

where should you go? Counseling.
Did you stop and think that maybe the loss of the baby is whats effecting him?
Go get some relationship counseling (go to a counselor that does sessions with you together and separately). You might find out you are not a good fit together.. and that you are just trying to make it work because you want a family so badly.

I think it could work out, but you need to lay off trying to get him to move in with you. Everyone grieves differently and he might just need some space.
But seriously, go to counseling.

@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - actually, in this case, it's my daughter and me.

@T3hZ10n@xanga - another thing she isn't considering is maybe he is doing it for the daughters sake. If they have broken up and argued so much why would he move in and then break the little girls heart if they break up again and he has to move out? That is more unhealthy than anything, sounds like he is being kinda grown up in that situation 

that's one reason why I prefer men, who have already proven themselves and I don't have to wait, change or expect him to be anything else, because he already is almost everything that I want. I wouldn't be attracted to someone, who isn't independent to begin with. maybe because I grew up in a single parent family with just my mom and I, so I've been independent and I don't expect a man to support me and though I appreciate if he wants to support me, I'd prefer if each of us are independent. I'd be glad if a guy told me that he isn't ready and expresses his concern for his financial well being rather than being a leech. or if a guy casually tells me to not worry about it and he'll take it day by day and do what he can as long as we're living together, then we get evicted that we can't pay the rent and gets so stressed that he's distracted from his studies and gets horrible grades and loses his financial aid support to continue school, so he gets depressed because he feels insufficient, and ignores me even more. that's just one possible scenario. I'd rather have a guy with a plan and goals to reach them than the "you only live once" attitude where it seems cool, but not really reliable. you can still enjoy and love each other even if you don't move in together. it probably won't be that enjoyable if he isn't ready to move in, but is guilt tripped into moving in and having to worry about financial things. you have different priorities; his is his financial situation and yours is wanting a family lifestyle. maybe he feels rejected as well since you broke up with him twice. he probably doesn't feel emotionally stable enough with you, so he fears that you'll give him a worse rejection when you guys fight again and you move out and leave him a third time if you moved together. your ground isn't stable enough financially or emotionally to consider moving in together. I think he realizes this and I'd be relieved if a guy that I'm dating sees this and makes it clear that he doesn't think it is a good idea or he's not ready.

@P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga - 

"I wouldn't be attracted to someone, who isn't independent to begin with."

Beautiful choice of words. False on so many counts... but true at the core.

@T3hZ10n@xanga - what are the falsies?

@P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga - Temporally speaking, I'm sure you'd easily find yourself attracted to someone who isn't, by your definition, "independent" (e.g. someone who is incredibly hot, caring, etc.), but would later be turned off upon finding out that they are not independent by your highly specific but ambiguously defined usage of the word.

That is just one example. Another is the fact that the evidence you require to ensure the person is "independent" is, in-fact, hard evidence to the contrary. Owning property = paying taxes... paying taxes = requiring an income... requiring an income = requiring a job... requiring a job = depending on others to pay you, etc.

Whether you're living at home or in mansion in Beverly Hills, in one form or another, whether its your biological parents, the government, your boss at work, your employees, or your customer base, you have a parental figure you rely on for your continued "independence". The irony is that generally speaking, the more successful a person is, the more authorities it seems they have to answer to.

The truth behind what you said though, is that we are all independent to begin with, and it is therefore impossible to be attracted to someone who is not independent.

"We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness." - Declaration of Independence

Which of course says that we are all created equal. (i.e. equal from birth).

Though it's nice not being stressed out due to financial concerns, finances do not have sole dictatorship over human biology and/or emotional, sexual, or any other form of attraction or arousal.

Rather, from what you said, if you find a person who is not "independent" unattractive, then finances DO have sole dictatorship over human biology, and they certainly should not... because I don't need to tell you what it means if a relationship requires a dollar amount (whether the time is taken to calculate it or not).

I think you should respect his decisions and let it the whole situation be. Everything will work out like how it should. In the meantime, you should focus on yourself and daughter. 

@T3hZ10n@xanga - basically, I don't want a scrub and someone, who will pay his share and is responsible enough to earn his own money and take care of himself. everyone relies on others in some way, such as an employer to hire them, but I was saying that I want someone, who is ambitious, and doesn't say, oh well, I'm equal no matter what because we're all born equal, so why bother improving myself! I amend my previous statement to someone, who is "highly ambitious" and continuously strives for self improvement for himself

It is time to move on. There are many fishes in the sea. Find another who loves and respects your daughter, as well.

Any delay is one less day when you will be with the guy you were meant to be..

PS Use birth control. Don't bring an innocent baby into a bad relationship. Good luck!

I don't think moving on together will make things better, if anything it will cause more problems, especially if he doesn't want to.

You should really listen to what he wants, not what YOU want. He says he is not ready, do not push the topic any further. Do you want to move in and then deal with the heartbreak and pain of moving out???? Think about this carefully. Moving in is a huge step...almost like being married. He wants to have a stable career to support you and your daughter. Reevaluate your relationship and find out what you want from it.

Good Luck!!

Think of it this way: He understands what moving in with you really means. He's afraid of that commitment because he grasps its magnitude.

A lot of other men would just move in with you, so they could keep on having sex and act like things are going well---and then leave when they realized the commitment they had just taken on. He doesn't want to do that; he wants to go slower now, so that he isn't overwhelmed later.