Thursday, 26 July 2012
This past weekend, I went to a lock and key event in my city. For those of you who are not familiar with a lock and key event, it's the ultimate icebreaker event for singles. Basically, all the guys each get a small key connected to a chain and all the women each get a small lock also connected to a chain. The guys go around and try to unlock the locks of all the women around to see which one opens.
If a guy does manage to open a lock, he and the girl go up and each get a free raffle ticket along with a new lock and key. Obviously, this leads to a lot of interesting interactions that may not otherwise happen in a normal social setting.
The event was open to people ages 21-49, so there were a variety of age brackets there. I was talking with this one lady who is a cosmologist at Fantastic Sams. She was 10 years older than me and she was half my height and plump, so I really wasn't all that attracted to her but we still talked. I planned on going to my favorite local club after since it was Latin night, and she asked if I could give her a ride since she didn't want to walk all the way to the parking garage. I of course, like the sucker I am, agreed. I didn't think it would be that bad since I invited some other friends to come along as well.
I knew she was coming on way too strong when she was complimenting me on my intelligence and dancing ability a little too much, and then it got really bad when she wanted me to drink from her glass and then she wanted to drink from mine, and then she wanted to dance with me for much of the night. Then she wanted to hold my hand whenever we were walking while constantly complimenting me on how much of a "gentleman" I am.
All I could say to myself was, "When is this night going to end?" This is a girl who I would have been fine being friends with, and she said that's all she wanted to be, but she was definitely crossing the line with her actions. I spent a lot of time trying to find her car, and I was afraid if we couldn't find it that I would be forced to have her stay the night over. Ugh.
If I was attracted to this girl, this would have been a great night. But since I'm not, I feel violated, and it's not the first time either. I tend to attract women who I am in no way attracted to and are not right for me. In order to stop doing that, I need to stop being so nice and I need to shy away from such women at the first sign of danger. Furthermore, I need to use a more cocky and funny attitude to attract the women that I AM into.
Do you tend to attract people who you aren't attracted to?