Wednesday, 25 July 2012
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The Power of the Unspoken Connection
It's just another monthly game night with your friends. A new person is invited into the mix; no one you've ever met before. But immediately, there's this charged connection. No words are yet spoken. No hands have been shaken, but you feel it. Your eyes can't fall from this person's hold. So you ask yourself: Is this what love at first sight feels like?
I've heard of it. This said "connection." Some have told stories of experiencing it on train rides. When you hear nothing but the train riding the tracks and the beating of your heart in your eardrums, while still holding this strangers attention. Some have experienced it in bars/clubs. When the blaring sound from the DJ's speakers can't even interrupt the hold they have on you from across the room.All of this from someone you've never heard speak a word. The sound of their voice is foreign to you. You don't know if their smile even touches their eyes or stalls at their mouth. But somehow, none of that matters; just that moment. That second when your eyes meet theirs and the whole world stops on its axis.
But at what point does this translate into the warm fuzzy feeling that symbolizes love? Once those eyes are met and the moment has passed, does that person still invade your thoughts?I've heard of this "connection." We're strangers though. I've never experienced it in my mid-twenties life span. We've crossed paths, but I was often distracted by his friend, infatuation. Not to say I don't believe in it, but I don't necessarily do either. It's just one of those things, like you had to be there? Well, I'd have to experience it for myself.
So tell me, have you? Do you believe in love at first sight?
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its called attraction.
I think you need to cut back on the romantic comedies
I'm totally infatuated with my boss. he isn't really my boss in charge of my dept, but he's one of the team of bosses. the main boss is old and ugly. he's gorgeous and sometimes I do feel that I'm so in love, but I know that it is just that I'm unbelievably turned on by his mere presence
I'm not sure what I'd do with him first if he did flirt with me. I'd probably freeze and then let him carry me to his room
@PureLilly@xanga - Hardly watch them.
Don't have to believe in love at first sight. Been there.
I believe in love at first sight. I don't know if I've ever experienced it, but I've had those moments where I've felt something with someone I've never met. I'm entirely too (shyly) romantic and probably feel things that aren't always there.
no, but i've jacked off to celebrities before. you know, in case that counts.
In my experience chicks often confuse "love at first sight" with 'gina tingles.
I think it's just physical attraction... Tho we call it "love at first sight" bc it just sounds so much simpler and better than "physical attraction at first sight," which doesn't quite have the ring to it.
But yes, I know what you're talking about. We've all had that "beautiful stranger."
There's infatuation at first sight, but no, I don't believe in "love at first sight". I feel like too many Disney and Nicholas Sparks movies have diluted what "love" means to begin with.
Love isn't just that warm fuzzy feeling - in fact, I don't think it's a feeling at all. Love is an action, a promise to be there for better or for worst.Personally, I like the biblical definition of it (whether you're religious or not, I feel like everyone can relate); love is patient, love is kind, it does not envy, does not boast, is not proud, keeps no records of wrongs, always protects, always trusts, always perseveres.
If you can promise all those things to a stranger you just met, then sure, you can say love at first sight - but if not, then I would definitely call it infatuation.
@mz_d0rkabl3@xanga - I love it!
I've had that experience, I was in a parked car while the guy was in the passenger seat of a car moving on the street infront of me. We made I contact and it was like time froze, and all I could see was the awe filled expression on his face, I just smiled.
I've wondered myself if it was love at first sight, but I have a boyfriend and I love him. The feeling wasn't the same, but I think those might be the people you could develope love with.
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - Even though your attitude toward women makes me want to slap you, you are incredibly funny. And honest.
It's called "lust at first sight."
@Kazydai@mancouch - lmao
lust and/or attraction do not equal love. That just gets you baby daddies.
@oneLBcloser@xanga - hahaha people say this to me all the time. (though i've never gotten it with the same first clause.)
i think you have a misconception though. i'd be curious to know why you say what you say. i don't lead anyone on, and the lies i tell are really harmless (e.g. "i've never really brought a girl i've just met home before"). if anything, i expect women to treat themselves as equal to men. people who can buy their own shit, who should be emotionally independent, who should be well-educated, have their shit together, and generally don't "need" a guy to get by in life. the whole damsel in distress thing is sooo unappealing to me.
Ooh the general reaction here seems to be "It's not love, ya idiot!". Of course it's not love, but there is a magic to that unexplainable magnetism that draws you to a certain person over so many others. Doesn't necessarily mean you're a lusty hornball, sometimes you're simply curious to get to know them. Can't build a fire without sparks.
I've never experienced that, but now that makes me want to write a short story about such a connection in a dance club...
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - How is telling a girl that bringing her home is out of the norm for you not leading her on? Your "harmless lie" is making her feel special, that there is something about her that made you want to treat her differently from other girls. Okay, a less naive girl would be able to see through you, but it seems like you prey on girls who are gullible enough to sleep with you, or just slutty enough. Any girl who sleeps with a guy who is not interested in HER orgasm has no respect for herself, and I guarantee most of the girls you have sex with regret it later.
I have a lot of guy friends like you, so I can at least respect your honesty, except when you say there's nothing wrong with what you're doing. You're smarter than that, you know you've made girls feel like shit... truth is you just don't care.
I am independent and certainly don't need a guy. Men like you get angry when I don't sleep with them because they feel enititled to what THEY want. They get all alpha-male when they see me with less "attractive", more down to earth respectful and mature men. A woman like you described will not sleep with a guy who doesn't make an effort (other than talking out of his ass) to make her feel good. Have you ever heard the phrase "Men need sex to feel good, women need to feel good to have sex"? After sex, when a woman realizes the feelings she felt that lead her to have sex were clouded for one reason or another, she gets down on herself. That's not something you are EVER going to relate to, and clearly not respect.
Do you still think I have misconceptions?
@Christian_and_Proud@xanga - Yes! The beautiful stranger was my favorite type of crush when I was in middle school and high school. ;P
The hot boy at the skating rink, the gorgeous guitarist in the band, the cute, quiet mysterious boy at a church retreat....oh man I could go on and on. heheh
I very much believe in unspoken connections between two souls that have just met, but I do not believe in love at first sight.
I personally really liked what was written in this article..
http://www.glamour.com/sex-love-life/blogs/smitten/2012/07/10-ways-to-know-youve-met-your.html
"It could feel like a different connection than you've ever felt.
Sometimes you meet someone, and you're like ‘I swear I know you from
somewhere,’ or you feel an instant comfort....You could feel more
comfortable with a guy you know three months than someone you were with
for five years. It happens all the time. So when I use the word
soulmate, I'm not saying it loosely, because there is definitely magic
in that word."
I've definately felt this before...and I think that was what the OP was referring to, if I'm not mistaken. Not this "love at first site," or "lust" but more like being totally and completely on the same page with someone!! Its a awesome feeling :)