I've taken 2 guy's virginities. One was 19 at the time, the other 21. Both of them lied to me about it.
Neither would go into detail about their sexual history, which I don't particularly care about. But both claimed they'd lost it at 18.
The 21-year-old was my first serious boyfriend, and I lost my virginity to him at age 19. He admitted that he was a virgin about a week before we actually had sex.
The 19-year-old was a whole different story. I didn't know that I'd taken his virginity until several weeks after we started having sex.
For those of you who wonder how this could be possible, the thought did briefly cross my mind during the act. But he lasted too long so I forgot about it. Also, we had sex on like our 3rd date.
I don't really care that they lied to me about it. I find it a little immature, and a little amusing. But really, I just don't get why.
When asked, both guys said it was because they were embarrassed to still be virgins at their respective ages. But I lost it at 19 and at 21 still have several friends my age who are virgins for whatever reason. I guess it's different for guys though. Their friends made fun of them for their virginity, but that's not really a thing between girls.
Also, according to American Sexual Behavior
, Americans lose their virginity on average at 17. So we were all a bit older than 'normal.'
I don't think it's really that important at what age one loses their virginity, although I do think your early teens is too young. But as long as you're emotionally and sexually mature, do (or don't do) whatever you like. Sex is a hugely personal decision and shouldn't be affected by what other people are doing.
I had sex at 19 because I was in love and felt ready. Not because I thought it was time to get it over with.
I do understand the 19-year-old's reason for lying to me about it a bit more than the 21-year-old. As mentioned, the 21-year-old and I were exclusive already, but I barely knew the 19-year-old when I had sex with him. I'm all for casual sex, but casual sex with a virgin is a little intimidating.
But he only told me this a few months into our relationship. While I'm glad I didn't know when we were having sex the first time, I feel like he could have told me earlier. I don't know. Maybe it's just because this has happened to me twice now, but I feel odd about the whole affair. It's not necessarily bad, but it is odd.
Anyway, I guess it doesn't really matter since they're both no longer virgins. You're welcome, boys :P
How old were you when you lost your virginity? Have you experienced something similar? If you're staying abstinent till marriage, etc, how old are you and what has been your experience with that?Image Source