I've taken 2 guy's virginities. One was 19 at the time, the other 21. Both of them lied to me about it.
Neither would go into detail about their sexual history, which I don't particularly care about. But both claimed they'd lost it at 18.
The 21-year-old was my first serious boyfriend, and I lost my virginity to him at age 19. He admitted that he was a virgin about a week before we actually had sex.
The 19-year-old was a whole different story. I didn't know that I'd taken his virginity until several weeks after we started having sex.
For those of you who wonder how this could be possible, the thought did briefly cross my mind during the act. But he lasted too long so I forgot about it. Also, we had sex on like our 3rd date.
I don't really care that they lied to me about it. I find it a little immature, and a little amusing. But really, I just don't get why.
When asked, both guys said it was because they were embarrassed to still be virgins at their respective ages. But I lost it at 19 and at 21 still have several friends my age who are virgins for whatever reason. I guess it's different for guys though. Their friends made fun of them for their virginity, but that's not really a thing between girls.
Also, according to
American Sexual Behavior, Americans lose their virginity on average at 17. So we were all a bit older than 'normal.'
I don't think it's really that important at what age one loses their virginity, although I do think your early teens is too young. But as long as you're emotionally and sexually mature, do (or don't do) whatever you like.
Sex is a hugely personal decision and shouldn't be affected by what other people are doing. I had sex at 19 because I was in love and felt ready. Not because I thought it was time to get it over with.
I do understand the 19-year-old's reason for lying to me about it a bit more than the 21-year-old. As mentioned, the 21-year-old and I were exclusive already, but I barely knew the 19-year-old when I had sex with him. I'm all for casual sex, but casual sex with a virgin is a little intimidating.
But he only told me this a few months into our relationship. While I'm glad I didn't know when we were having sex the first time, I feel like he could have told me earlier. I don't know. Maybe it's just because this has happened to me twice now, but I feel odd about the whole affair. It's not necessarily bad, but it is odd.
Anyway, I guess it doesn't really matter since they're both no longer virgins. You're welcome, boys :P
How old were you when you lost your virginity? Have you experienced something similar? If you're staying abstinent till marriage, etc, how old are you and what has been your experience with that?
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I was 18 when I lost my virginity to a gang of scantily-clad Playboy playmates. When I asked them what they wanted, all I remember hearing was something about my sexy personality before I was smothered in a sea of boobs.
I was 28, 25 if you count cybersex. My first in person experience was with another woman, and she's the only person I've had full out sex with in real life. I'm a bit embarrassed about that, since my main explanation for all that is an endless string of unrequited crushes.
There's now a guy I have a crush on. I've hinted to him that I've had an lesbian experience, just not that it was my only one. If I do get with him, I'm not sure I want to tell him he's the first man I've had sex with. At my age (29), that's just too embarrassing. I won't lie to him, I just won't tell him the whole truth, especially since I know he's more experienced than I am.
Taking someone's virginity is quite intimidating. My friend took her 2nd boyfriend's virginity (note: he was a rebound) and found herself feeling so guilty after realizing so. Similar to your experience, she had sex with him on the 3rd date and was planning to just have a fling. Let's just say that things did not work out so well for them in the end...
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I lost it at 18 to a 20 year old. I guess the 20 year old kinda lied about it. She never said she wasn't a virgin, but she implied it during all our time together. We were together a couple months before we did it. She had sex with some other guy losing her virginity about a week before we had sex together though. Found out about that a few months down the line.
Anyway I know a few people who lie about losing their virginities early so they don't feel as awkward about it, but I think most people I know are more honest so I've had friends in their mid 20's still complaining about being virgins. Maybe just as you get older it's not as much a big deal and they can talk about it more easily.
I was 14 when I decided to hand over my v-card. Though it was a wonderful experience with my first bf, (he was a year and a half older and a virgin, too) I wish I had waited until I was a bit older. My bf at the time said he already lost his virginity, but after we did it, he admitted I was his first. I knew in my heart he was an inexperienced virgin because it was over too damn fast! lol!
I was 16, looking back there is no regret with the decision but just that I waited a little bit older..
I think there's a stigma amongst girls in regards to the number of sexual relations and when you loose it. I've had three sexual partners which is alot compared to my friends seeing that they havent lost it or have been with one or two guys in their life. I'm 23.reading this title i totally assumed it was going in the other direction... as in saying your a virgin when you are not or at least less experienced. i have nothing to contribute on the topic of lying about more experience
I can't believe this is important enough to discuss in this forum. In 25 years, none of you will give any of this a second thought. You will have some life under your belt and life will be so fulfilling and interesting that your early sexual experiences will be something you never think about.
Please, get out there in the world. Live, learn, have fun...and stop attaching importance to when you first got laid. We can all agree that the first time was a f***ing disaster! LOL It can only get better over the years. Relax and enjoy the ride!
i never told the girl to whom i lost my v card. it was a drunken hook-up and i wouldn't have had it any other way. too much awkwardness--i wouldn't ever be able to look that girl in the eye again. if i had to do it all over again, i'd have made the same decision.
but yeah, i lie about my experience all the time, in the other direction nowadays, though...
Lost it at 20 to a guy I was dating while in Australia studying abroad. We were together my entire time there and I am so glad I waited for him to be my first. He was older and had experience and was ok with knowing that I was a virgin which made me feel a lot better because he could sense my insecurity.
I know its cliche, but the truth will set you free because the day after I told him, we had sex and it wasn't awkward or scary. And he was a complete gentleman.my hubby and I both waited until we got married and I wouldn't change it for anything.
I have bipolar, so when I was younger & more out of control I would tell people I lost my virginity at 13 & would attempt to have sex a couple times before backing out.. Stupid, I know. I actually lost it at 19 & was so drunk I don't remember it. But for me that's ok & I don't find myself regretting it. I just look forward to the day that I have that "first time" experience & I'm glad it will be without the awkwardness & pain of losing your virginity.
I was 21 when I lost mine. And I kinda wish I had stayed a virgin because most guys think just because a girl has done it before that means she's easy and will do it with them. I've had more guys I didn't want back off me when i told them I was a virgin.
I didn't cave into peer pressure, I was just tired of waiting around for someone I really liked who liked me back. It's always I like someone that doesn't want me or someone likes me that I don't want.
I decided to give my v-card to my asshole boyfriend i dated in high school but 8 years later, bahahaha.
He wasn't a virgin though. At the time he dated me in high school he was, not when we met up randomly bumping into each other at a Walmart. I regret it and wish I had waited then I wouldn't have all these assholes to deal with and their gossip about me being a slut.
I think a guy I was friends with implied he was not a virgin when he really was, but I can't be sure about it. I didn't have sex with him though, so I guess that's his business. I do feel like he should have been clearer though.
I was seventeen and we were both virgins. I did date someone when I was eighteen who told me he'd slept with a three other girls before me, and then I found out he'd been a virgin. I only found out after we broke up, so I more thought it was stupid of him not to tell me than anything else.
Maybe I'm just old, but I'm pretty much on the "not interested in sex with someone I'm lying to or I think may be lying to me" train. Yea, that's right. It's an actual train. /shrug, lying is just one of the most massive turn-offs I can think of...
Haha how could you not tell they were virgins the first time? I've only taken one person's virginity, or atleast that I know of. This makes me wonder.
19, both virgins. I then took the virginity of a 26-year-old Egyptian man while I was studying abroad. After that, knowing a guy is a virgin or not matters to me. Mainly, I'm not going to have sex with a virgin who I feel is going to be upset with me if it isn't super awesome or something. For me, having sex with anyone for the first time requires a little bit of patience and getting into the groove of things, and non-virgins seem to get that more than virgins.
Keep in mind that an average is neither a mode nor a median, and can be very deceptive.
Never lied, never will. My husband and I were one another's first, and I like it that way. I was 17 and he was 18. (My parents were aware so it's not like I was being sneaky or anything.) I have no regrets. We were fairly careful not to get pregnant. (I got on birth control and we used condoms and spermicide.)
I have a 23 year old male friend who is a virgin, or was as of last year anyway. I don't keep tabs. haha
I was 19 when i lost it had a good time. My ex knew i was a virgin it didnt bother him at all. My husband was a virgin he was 22. It took him a few times to get into the swing of things lol. Never lied to any of them about numbers lol it was just the two of them. My husband doesnt know every little detail about my previous relationship but he doesnt really want or need to. I only wish i had more casual sex before i got married and settled down, its just fun being with other people.
I lost my virginity a few days after my 21st birthday. The girl I slept with was a friend I knew since high school, but we never dated and honestly, it was a casual sex kind of thing. We weren't even close, so I don't think she ever really knew I was a virgin (although I can personally admit my performance that night was sub-par).
I think it's harder for a guy to admit to it because it's sort of emasculating to do it. For a girl, for you to feel de-womanized, you need to go through something drastic like breast or cervical cancer (or maybe I'm just basing that off of Hollywood hype), but for guys, if you say anything about their sexual performance, it will hurt their ego - our egos bruise like peaches in the sun.
Lost it to a stripper at 19. Three years later 100% of my sexual experiences have been with strippers. I'm about 4 strippers in at this point, but never had sex with a girlfriend. Sex is supposed to be personal? Guess I missed that memo.
19 year old virgin and counting.
@QuantumStorm@xanga - what a grand entrance you made! When did you wake up?
@Tallman - Waking up? You mean I'm NOT a Hogwarts student in real life who also happens to be Iron Man? Damnit.