I've been dating my boyfriend for two months, and I don't know how to go about dumping him. Whenever we have a fight, he cries. I'm afraid breaking up with him will do the same or even worse. School break is about to end in two days, and being around him is going to get real awkward because we hang around each other at recess, lunch and during class. We also have mutual friends who are around us all the time.
I feel stuck and like it's beginning to damage me emotionally.
How can I let him down nicely without having to resort to some sort of argument or dramatic fight? I really don't want to put my friends in a position where they have to choose a side. Please help!
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You've only been seeing each other for two months... he'll get over it. Just be honest and polite - better now than to drag it on longer.
Try to focus on the fact that it's in reality kinder to break up with him sooner rather than later, when he's decidedly more attached and it will be a harder break...and more tears. Be open and kind, but directly clear with no wiggle room that will leave him lingering in false hope. Don't let his tears draw you back in or waver...it's not fair to his or your emotional well-being.
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Don't let him down easy. Annihilate his poor, sensitive heart.
On his behalf: http://youtu.be/nS246KKU5Dw
If you can't break up with him outright, YOU are the one who needs to be let down easy.
That's why you're asking for advice on Datingish instead of facing him directly.
Communication, communication, communication.
Whatever you decide to do with your relationship, do it your way.
Tell him you're not the right person for him, because of this and that.. that he's still young.. and he'll be glad years down the road to not have a girlfriend already.
ok i dont know how old you are but don't they stop recesses in like grade 8?
Anyway, its only been 2 months with him. Be honest, and don't drag it out any longer.
Yes he will be hurt at first, but he will heal and you will both move on.
What is "emotionally damaging" is getting advice from people who are not in a relationship with him because they don't care about him. YOU do.
The ability to come here any time you're feeling guilty for not being able to empathize and communicate how you feel (or don't feel) to him makes it easier and easier to dislike whoever you choose to be with at the time, whenever that person feels differently than you do.
Gain some self-awareness. Nobody is going to feel the same as you do all of the time.
"If you don't use it, you lose it."
Familiarize yourself with evolution. FEELING your emotions doesn't damage them. This, however, does.
The above commenters are right about one thing... it has only been 2 months. How can you possibly know him well enough to say with certainty that he's not the right person for you?
You're breaking up with him. There really isn't a way you can do that without it being awkward. And there is also no way to tell you a way to do it without starting a fight, because everyone is different and handles break ups differently. When I broke up with my ex I had no idea that he would react the way he did.
recess? jesus, how old are you? i stopped having recess after 5th grade...
Whatever you do, DONT do it with a text or fb or email or phone call. You have to do it in person!
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - LOL, I was about to ask the same thing!
@LadyGwenivere@xanga - @phoebester@xanga - @TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - The OP is 13. It's the same author behind "I'm 13 and He's a Jerk."
@superwoman - Just tell him you don't want to date him anymore. If he asks for a reason, you can give him one, but make it clear that you have no interest in continuing the relationship no matter what. You're both young, and trust me, he's not going to spend his life pining over you. There will be other people for both of you in the future.
yeah that crying can only get worse the longer you wait... it'll suck but ya gotta bite the bullet
on the other hand, recess can be consider just break time for students in schools outside of the US, so no playgrounds or anything, just a break during school hours. so if this is the case, you could be in high school undergoing childish drama from a boy who doesn't know how to man up and should learn to, starting by you just dumping him asap. do it the way you feel is best. good luck!
Just tell him that you don't want to be his gf anymore and there's plenty more fish in the sea....you're 13 it's all good
Two months. Who cares - ain't no thang.
How old are you to be having recess? At first I was thinking break time for high schoolers, but we didn't even have breaks during high school just ten minutes between classes. As for letting him down, two months isn't really that long. If he's crying over fights it sounds like he just needs somebody which isn't necessarily a bad thing, but it is if you don't want to be that person. Tell him how it is and move on. Dragging it on is only going to make him more attached and going to hurt him more.
@jenigrins@xanga - I totally love when people say ain't no thang. I have no idea why haha.
I don't think there's a nice way of breaking up with someone. You're basically telling them you don't want to waste my time on them anymore. Just do it. You have to put yourself first when you're not happy. Wait, recess? What grade are you in?
Simply start Ignoring him, Look for excuses Like you're sick or something or have other sort of works at home, not making enough time out for him will soon drift him apart in no time.. :)
@Edeline_Wrigh@xanga - so 13.. would make her gr 8?
Who on earth would let a gr 8 kid post on "Datingish"??? And i'd love to know if her parents know about this.
recess?
did you just say recess
I was totally going to say the same thing as @oneLBcloser. How old are you? And TWO months? Try two YEARS. Two months is nothing. Especially, if you two are still having recess.
Whatever way you choose, just make sure it's not by phone, text, email, or note. That's a copout, and copouts are just plain mean.
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Just be straightforward guys are generally more resilient than women especially young women think.