Sometimes, it seems that every straight male's fantasy is a threesome with two women. Many of these men are extremely against the idea of a threesome with another man. Women tend to be more open to the idea of a threesome with another woman. Many even prefer the idea of a W/M/W to sleeping with two men.
I had a conversation about this with two straight women the other day, one of whom had participated in a threesome, where we talked about the pros and cons of different types of threesomes.
W/M/W would probably be less awkward, as women tend to be more open sexually with each other. One friend brought up the fact that two straight men in a sexual situation would likely be extremely uncomfortable with each other.
That said, we all agreed that we were comfortable dealing sexually with the woman only from the waist up. To be totally honest, vaginas kind of gross me out, unless it's my own. I don't find penises particularly attractive, either, but at least they give me pleasure.
As straight women, the ideal should be M/W/M, right? Not so much. Other than the potential awkwardness described above, there's just too much junk to deal with there. Perhaps it could be doubly pleasurable, but it also sounds twice as exhausting, which does not appeal to me.
Another thing to consider with the threesome is who you would have it. All 3 of us agreed that we would have a threesome with people we didn't know that well and didn't have to see that often. We also agreed that if there was a couple involved, we'd want to be the third person.
By being the third person, you avoid the drama that a threesome might bring to your relationship. One friend gets jealous easily in relationships and said that she couldn't handle watching her boyfriend with another person. My other friend, who had a W/M/W threesome with another couple, noted that it seemed clear that the boyfriend wanted the threesome and the girlfriend was ambivalent. That sounds like a lot of ammo for future fights that I simply don't want to deal with.
Making sure you don't know this couple well also helps shield you from any potential fall-out. Also, it's just awkward when you run into people on a regular basis that you've slept with. As the saying goes, don't shit where you eat.
Of course, this post comes from a conversation between three straight women. So I can't speak for anybody gay, bi, or male. But if I ever had the opportunity to have a threesome, these are the things that I would consider.
Have you ever had a threesome? What do you think of threesomes?
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I don't think I'd ever be in a threesome. I wouldn't even know what to do haha.
Once the alcohol wore off, it was a tad awkward. I could never do it with someone I care for + someone else.
And it's perfectly acceptable for guys to make contact in a MMF, as long as that contact is restricted to a high five.
I have had every variety of threesome with both bi and straight men and women. FFM threesomes where both women are bisexual and the male is straight are one of my favorite, they are very fluid. MFM threesomes are up there in my favorite, too. Almost every straight guy I've talked to is 100% comfortable in an MFM threesome. The few men I've come across who aren't interested in partaking in an MFM are still curious about them, and seem mostly uninterested because they don't know what would happen in it. A very slim percentage are very against them. All of my MFM threesomes have been very hot, but I haven't had any where the guys have played with each other. (Even if they had been bi.) That's next on my bucket list.
To each his/her own. If folks want to do threesomes then by all means go for it. Personally, it's not for me. I'm the type who prefers one on one. I just can't get it wrapped around my head that I won't be the center of attention with another female involved. I know it's not like that, but I'm pretty darn selfish when it comes to my needs. I don't like to share. That's all. lol!
I'd have a MMF threesome. I don't find women sexually appealing. the thought of a soft body against mine repulses me. I like hard bodies. I could just find a female with a toned body, but it still wouldn't turn me on, because I like tall men. I could just find a really tall female with a toned body, but I just don't find breasts even if they are small appealing. or just find a tall flat chested female, but I don't find vags appealing. I prefer if it was a flat chested tall guy with a toned body and muscular arms. well, just no moobs, but some chest muscle bulge is okay. I don't like soft bodies, but female muscles just don't do it for me either. I just don't find females sexually attrractive no matter what. I also like hearing the deep moans of men's voices. female moans really annoy me. I don't find limp penises attractive, but erect ones are pretty hot. it depends on the overall appeal of the guy, so not just any hard penis on a guy with hairy moobs and beer belly. I wouldn't have a threesome with bisexual men. they'd each have a task to pleasure me
I'd have a threesome with my two crushes at work, but it likely won't happen, because both are married*cue dramatic soap opera music* I usually don't care for meatheads, and like the medium toned bodies, but I'd pick The Rock and one of those heavy weight boxers at my threesome. they are like triple or quadruple my size and I just find it really hot being held captive by these incredible hulks
king kong and the mini jane threesome
omgz.
Ugh WTH.
And yet I still went ahead and tried to read it anyway.
I'm not the "jealous" type, per se. I'm more what I'd describe as "absolute."
I literally can't read through the whole post without intermittently and involuntarily making confused/pained facial expressions from which anyone would be able to decipher my soul clearly screaming "WHY WOULD YOU DO THAT?!".
Don't get me wrong, I completely and totally understand every aspect of threesomes including the mechanism behind the desire for them and their overall appeal... but I will never get it.
Like if for whatever reason I would ever have to partake in one, I would know without a doubt one of the two other people is Satan, and I'm a nihilist. It would literally be that bad.
I did have a threesome, FMF, both of the women being bisexual and the guy being straight. It was fluid and comfortable enough. Actually, we were more into each other than the guy. But anyway, I would actually love to have another in a more polyamorous setting where all three involved all had deep feelings for one another but that's really a slim and hopeful chance it'll ever happen. As far as MMF threeseomes, i would personally never go for it. double the pleasure? forget that. double the tired is right. i would totally have a threesome with two other women though. i dunno, i guess i'm weird like that.
@T3hZ10n@xanga - great idea regarding Satan! Satan seems to have more testosterone than boxers. I'll have a threesome with Satan and Devil Jin Kazama, who looks like the character on your profile pic.
http://www.animecentral.net/gallery/albums/userpics/10001/normal_tekken6_deviljin.png
the red devil genie that jafar from aladdin transforms into is pretty hot. I can't decide on which devils are sexier:D
I'm good. IF I had to, it be strictly dickly, know what I mean. I love men for a reason so vagina isn't what turns me on, at all.
I wouldn't necessarily consider myself bisexual or lesbian, but I'm more comfortable with women (I'll freak out and shut down when things with men happen). So I'm down for FMF if the situation arises. I don't think I'll ever be into the idea of MFM since that means someone would have to be up my ass and I'm not into that idea. :/
@LipstickStainedCoffeeCups@xanga - one guy does you doggystyle while you blow the other one
or you give the other one a handjob. then they switch positions. no assplay is necessary.
"To be totally honest, vaginas kind of gross me out" seriously dude. they are fucking disgusting. after i splash, i usually am like...wow wtf did i find appealing about this 10 seconds ago?
@sunflowersforlove@xanga - @LipstickStainedCoffeeCups@xanga -@P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga - or have one girl blowing the dude while the other sits on his face. i mean, not that i've ever done that or anything.
My husband and I have had two threesomes with a life long male friend, and nothing in the friendship or our relationship changed, because we made sure going in to it that it wouldn't. If all the parties are adults, consenting, and know what they are in for then by all means go for it. It actually brought my husband and I closer to see the other person being desired. next we want to do a 3some with a woman
I sometimes wonder if threesomes are common in countries with polygamy. I asked my barber if his brother (who has 2 wives) has 3somes but he said he didn't. I must admit I was a tad bit disappointed.
I would ONLY consider a threesome with two other people who weren't in a relationship (and didn't seem to have strong romantic feelings involved)- even if it was a couple in an 'open' relationship I would be concerned that the woman would just be going along with it. It doesn't matter if I barely know them so I don't have to witness the drama; I want no part in causing it.
I would also be unlikely to have a threesome with friends- if I was very drunk I could probably do it and not feel too awkward about it, but I don't think my friends would be capable of it.
I would be completely against having a threesome with my BF- if he wants to shag other women, he's not my BF any more and I don't think I could ever feel comfortable and secure enough around him again to stay with him. (I also probably wouldn't be in a threesome not involving my partner while I'm in a relationship, even with permisson, because I think that would still cause problems.)
If I end up marrying a man, I think we'll have to have threesomes every now & again to keep things spiced up. & they'll be W/M/W because of many reasons but mainly watching two guys get hot & sweaty together doesn't appeal to me while hooking up with a girl does. & I don't mind sharing.
Threesomes are friggin hot.
@P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga - Omfg. Black and red! That pic is so me...
Never been in one, I think they are generally a bad idea if you're in a relationship that you care about.
@GodlessLiberal@xanga - "Once the alcohol wore off, it was a tad awkward. I could never do it with someone I care for + someone else." Same here! I left shortly after it began. I, too, could never do it with someone I care for and someone else. No way.
I would love to participate in a threesome, MMF or FFM.
I don't dig threesomes.
And I don't think I could handle it if my man even suggested it because of my vast insecurity lol; I'd just think stuff like I'm not good enough for him, I don't satisfy him enough so he wants to bring someone else in the picture?
As far as casual sex goes; there'd probably be no more problem, but with someone I'm in love with? Nah.
Well, being a bisexual, I prefer w/w/m. It's awesome.
There's probably Never gonna be a day where I do m/m/w. I am NOT
getting anything shoved in my ass, cause that's what I automatically see
happening in that type of situation. And uhh... no. Just no.
And as far as the feelings are concerned, you definitely gotta make sure that, if you're in a relationship, that nobody gets feelings for the other person. That's one of my biggest rules. If you find yourself getting too attached to the other person, then no more threesomes with that person. If you're gonna be too jealous about it, don't go through with it just to please your SO either. It'll definitely cause problems later, that you don't want, trust me. But if you both can agree that it's strictly just for fun, and nothing more, and can find someone that can "play by the rules," I say go for it.
Threesomes certainly are a fantasy for a lot of people. I know I'd love to have a FMF threesome, but I think MFM would be fun too.
Nope. I want my man all to myself...
No way! I'm too selfish, I want my guy all to myself. ^.^