Sunday, 22 July 2012
My boyfriend doesn't like to kiss me in public.
He's fine holding my hand, putting his arms around me, etc. Sometimes, he'll even kiss me on the cheek. But he refuses to kiss me on the lips, because he's concerned about the image that we give off.My ex was big on PDA, so this is a bit different for me. Not good or bad, necessarily, just interesting.
PDA is a hotly contentious issue. Whether you're in a relationship and performing it, or single and watching people do it, everyone has an opinion. How much PDA do you find acceptable?
The answer is complicated, mainly because it has so many components. Take environment, for example. What's acceptable at a club is wildly different from what's OK on the street in the middle of the day.
Another factor is the difference between seeing and doing. I know many who say they don't really mind certain levels of PDA, but they personally would never do it.
PDA can become an issue in relationships, mainly when one partner is OK with more than the other partner. The guy my friend is seeing is really affectionate when they're alone, but refuses to hold her hand in public. She doesn't want to make out on the street. However, she wishes that he would hold her hand occasionally.
PDA can even become an issue in platonic relationships. When your friends aren't comfortable with the amount of PDA that you and your S/O exhibit, they are far less likely to hang out with you.
Interestingly, witnessing PDA might actually be good for you. According to Yahoo!, Swedish scientists have found that we experience the same psychological pleasure from seeing "sensual caresses" as well as receiving them.
So next time you have a friend like mine, who says, "Honestly, it's just disgusting," you can just tell them it's healthy.
What level of PDA do you find acceptable? Have you had any of these issues? How did you deal with them?