"I like this guy but I don't know if he likes me back." "I want to tell this girl I like her but I don't know how." "How do I ask someone on a date?" "How do I know if he/she/they like me back?"
If these are your issues, this is the article for you...
My favorite author is John Green (pictured above). When asked questions very similar (if not identical) to these, his advice was simple "use your words."
I love this advice. I love it so much that I'm hijacking it and using it for the premise of this post.
I think that we, as a generation, are horrible at communicating with each other. With all our technological advancements, iPhones, Twitters, Facebook messengers and so many other ways to just talk to each other, we still can't seem to communicate. The problem, I think, is this whole "flirting" concept. We think every single thing we say has to be a perfectly calculated, coy statement that is designed to give away absolutely nothing
. And people flirt like it's an Olympic sport (spoiler alert, it's not).
Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against people who flirt. I just never really got into it as much as everyone else seemed to. I'm a fan of the direct approach, and that's where this advice comes in.
If you're an inexperienced flirt-er, or you just prefer a short, direct way to show your interest in someone, there's nothing wrong with the old "I think you're pretty cool and I'd like to go out with you sometime."
It's concise, to the point, and nothing gets lost in translation. Also, there's a chance your special someone will be so impressed at your boldness they'll just have to say yes and get to know you!Want more How-To posts? Leave your questions in comments! Source