Honestly, your situation sounds spot on to my last relationship. We were only together for two years, though. We were heading in the direction of marriage and sad to say...but shit like this really does happen. We went from so in love and Florida vacations to physical and verbal abuse. And I, too, felt that I was the only one left in love and he had no care for anything. I'm really sorry this happened to you, and it honestly made me tear up just now thinking about my situation in relation to yours.

I agree with the previous poster.  It will hurt for a while, but I think it would be harder to try to keep things together with someone who does not want to put as much effort into the relationship as you do.

I cannot say what you should choose to do, but from the sounds of it, if I were in your position it sounds like divorce is the best bet.  I don't often condone the act of ending the marriage because I do believe in working out your differences and try to make things work.  However, for the fact of the abuse (verbal and physical), and the that it seems like he has all the loose ends all tied up and just waiting for your grand exit from his life--I would consider he is through with this relationship.  It is sad, I feel very badly for, but I think a little more pain now is better than a lifetime of regret and sorrow.  I wish you the best.

Get divorced and MOVE ON!  He's an asshole and you never should have wasted your time on him!  Believe me.  You will do better!!

i can't and won't speculate what possessed you to marry this guy if you were abusing each other, but a lot of times we do dumb things.  there's no use in crying over spilled milk, as long as we learn our lessons for next time.

the healthiest (and safest!) thing you can do for yourself is to divorce him and move on.  it will be a long and arduous process, and you will wonder for a long time what went wrong.  unfortunately, you may never find out.  you also need to cut him out of your life for good.  keeping him around will only prolong your emotional recovery.  it sounds like you have a supportive family to help you through this.  things could be a *lot* worse. 

you should also be wary of the pitfall of finding a new guy to be your rebound, since you have absolutely no idea what it is like to be single and independent.  this is one of many reasons why it's generally not recommended to get married at such a young age (these marriages have a higher divorce rate too, i believe).  i realize that we all like to believe that we are infallible.  i had a revelation when i was 23 that might seem obvious, but i think at times we forget just how true it is:  life is hard, and you are not going to get everything right the first time.  the best we can ever do is learn from our mistakes and hope to improve ourselves in the future.

best of luck to you.

I've been with my bf for almost 1 year and we don't live together. sometimes I don't even talk to him for a few days. this gives us time to miss each other. he can't seem to get enough of me due to this. if we lived together, then it might not be this way since we'll probably get tired of the routine or feel overwhelmed by each other or we start to get annoyed at the others' quirky habits, which some can tolerate and some can make it work living together, but everybody is different. one sided love is pointless. it doesn't seem like he feels the same if he acts so casual when you mention a divorce and he's immature if he blocks you immediately from those sites. don't stay in an abusive relationship. better get out fast while you can, so you don't drag it out longer. I wouldn't be in a relationship with anyone with a bad/short temper. they are a ticking timebomb and who knows when they'll snap and take me down with them. no way.

I have no advice because I've never been in this type of situation, but if it helps at all I know how it feels to be so in love with someone and have it all fall apart. I was with my ex for five years and we broke up in October. I didn't think I would ever get over him and I didn't know how two people could be so in love and then start fighting about everything. Turns out, that getting under someone else was what caused him to start fighting with me all the time. Not to say that you're guy is cheating. Things do get easier and better though even when it seems like it won't. You're still young and you have time to enjoy life. Don't let him ruin your life. 

First, I am thankful you got out of that abusive situation. You didn't wait for him to change, you didn't give him chance after chance, you just got out. And thats a good thing. I don't even want to think about how bad things could have gotten for you.. this guy obviously had something else going on.

I went through 2 abusive relationships and the best piece of advice I got was to get counseling. Physical abuse heals.. but scars from mental/verbal/emotional abuse run deep and need to be dealt with.
The other reason i suggest counseling is to work through any left over baggage from your marriage, you dont want to carry that stuff into your next relationship (whenever that may happen). Yes, it only lasted a year, but you two were together for a long time before that.
All the best =)

Your life sounds similiar to mine as well.  I was with my husband 5 years before we got married, 1 year and 4 months in I had an attorney and was preparing for divorce when I found out I was pregnant.  Now we are trying to work things out, but we struggle and we hate each other.  My attorney told me no judge will grant me a divorce while Im pregnant.  Every one tells me he'll change once he sees our baby girl, but I don't believe it.  I'm glad you are getting the opportunity to get out.  I'm sure it will be one of the hardest things you'll ever get over, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel... I hope I find mine soon.

I heard (not saying it's true or anything.) When you're with someone for a long time before you get married,like living with them,that when you actually get married it usually ends in divorce. My dad knew a couple that lived together for 20 years and had kids,and after they finally decided ''Why not just get married?'' two or three years later they got divorced.

What the hell is wrong with you?? -tough love here- the man verbally & physically abused you BEFORE?! Doesn't matter if it was prior to being married or while married -- those are huge ass red flags saying Honey! that ain't love! Not only that..but you guys started dating when your roughly sixteen/seventeen! Not saying that all high school sweethearts end up like this, a lot are happily married -- but still..you were both young & probably grew up emotionally together. Sometimes high school sweethearts don't work out in the marriage area because dating for seven years before marriage while good to see how compatible you are & not rushing into anything is different when in high school versus late to out of college. There, you are both adults & it's a little different. Again, not saying this is the case for all high school sweethearts, but it seems to be in your case. Once again I am drawn back to the fact it's not the first time it got physical between you two or him on you. That's not love why stay with someone at any point when they emotionally or physically abuse you? It's clear he fell out of love with you -- perhaps long before you even married & him being rather weaselly about it just married you for the sake of it, for comfort reasons. 

Don't grieve over the loss of someone who doesn't grieve over the loss of you.  Move on and learn to be happy without someone in your life before trying a relationship again.

my heart aches for you. unfortunately i have no advice because i've never had a boyfriend, let alone been married, but i just wanted to tell you that i really hope everything works out for you<3