The other day, I had a conversation about threesomes. In this conversation, my sister told me about a friend of hers that had a threesome. The couple had a threesome with the girl's best friend, and managed to maintain their previous relationship, which is pretty amazing in and of itself. But my sister also mentioned the reason WHY they had a threesome.
Apparently, the boyfriend was upset that the girlfriend had slept with one more person than he had. So to 'get even,' he asked for a threesome, and then girlfriend reluctantly agreed. Um, what?
First off, this sounds like BS to me. In the threesome, the girlfriend also slept with her best friend. So even if the boyfriend sleeps with her too, the girlfriend still has one more sex partner than he does.
More importantly, who cares?
In the grand scheme of things, your number doesn't matter. As long as you're clean and, if we're exclusive, only having sex with me, that's all I really care about.
The only reason I would be nervous about anyone's number is it if it were excessively high and he hadn't been tested. I don't think I would be upset about it purely because it was lower or higher than mine. And I certainly wouldn't find ways to 'get even.'
Honestly? I think the guy just wanted a threesome and was looking for a good excuse to ask for one, although I think he should have just asked. Trying to 'get even' with your S/O is ridiculous and immature. Come on, now.
What do you think? How did you feel after learning about your S/O's number?
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Yes, I would really like to marry a virgin...you know... someone who is guaranteed not to be a rapist and have sexual morals, and not expect me to do anything that is horribly uncomfortable for me.
It wouldn't matter to me. The only way it would be an issue is if my SO and I were in a committed relationship and he was still sleeping around with other people. I agree with you, that does sound like a lame excuse to ask for a threesome. If some guy acted like that with me and wouldn't drop it after I told him no or had repeated conversations as to why he cared so much about numbers, I'd suggest having an open relationship in which he can open the door, walk out, and screw anyone else he wanted.
Who cares... as long as he never contracted herpes, it doesn't matter.... why? Because more likely than not, that "number" is downplayed.
It would only bother me if he'd slept with my sister or a close friend. If he's slept with more people than I have, fine. But I'm kind of a visual person, so of course I'll picture him having sex with other women. If it's someone I don't know or don't know well, it doesn't phase me. If it's a close friend or relative, I don't want to always be wondering, "was she better than me?"
But that probably won't happen, seeing as my sister is waiting until marriage and most of my close female friends are either married, in long-term monogamous relationships, or lesbians.
One of my closest guy friends is dating a girl who has slept with pretty much everyone in his group of friends. And yes, to each their own, but I find it very difficult to imagine it doesn't bother him.
It matters, but I expect my SO either has had more partners or none since I have none. And how many more doesn't really matter, to an extent. Of course I wouldn't get even haha.
This is one of the downsides of being a slut.
The male ego is such that it must see itself as the ubberslut.
This relationship is doomed.
Well, it matters to me. But, that is because I'm a virgin, and I'm going to marry a virgin.
Both of my significant others have slept with more people than me, but both of them are clean, respectful toward me, and generally fantastic aspects of my life. Numbers are pretty irrelevant in the scheme of things... It all comes down to the attitudes involved.
She almost certainly won't claim me as her SO yet, but when it comes to my soul mate, the irony of the situation was that being the sweet, trusting, and (though she would never admit it) innocent girl she is, I would've been rather suspicious if her number was lower than mine because such beauty can't possibly go unappreciated for very long.
It's not that she's promiscuous by any means, but having a higher number than myself is indicative of the intrinsic and direct correlation between how increasingly unaware of just how beautiful she truly is and just how unaware of it she becomes when there isn't a male to be found whose attractiveness can compare to her physical perfection, nor one whose heart and soul is qualified to validate her own.
She's obscenely pretty.
And she wonders why she doesn't have many friends...
It's like, WAKE UP! You're not allowed to be that gorgeous and care that much about other people's opinions of you, pick one!
I don't mind if her number exceeds mine. So long as I perpetually remain her previous, current, and next, her undivided love is all I would want and I couldn't ask for more (as if there could ever be such a thing).
@PrisonerxOfxLove@xanga - Agree to disagree?
most of the guys that I knew were slutty. they'd casually tell me that they had sex with a girl and just got home as if it was nothing, which it is nothing to them, and I'll be like...oookay, so that's what you did today
then I remember one of them making fun of the girl and telling me how loose her vag felt or it wasn't as tight as he'd like. maybe she sleeps with big dongs, so he feels that she is "loose" since his is so small rofl anyway if it was a guy that I like or I'm with, then I'd be upset, but if it is just a guy friend, then I wouldn't care. I know you're not asking about platonic friends, but the guy that I was talking about liked me and I think he was testing to see if I'd get mad/jealous when he talked about having sex with other girls, which I clearly didn't, but I was laughing along with him when he made fun of them, which likely disappointed him. so that's how I know if I friendzoned them
my s.o. now hasn't been with alot of women. I was relieved when I found out that he's just as arrogant as me when it comes to sex. he was saying how women wanted him and he had the chances presented to him, but they basically weren't good enough for him
when he told me about women from his past, I wasn't mad, but it was adorable lol he was the hot but shy guy, so girls would make the moves on him
the ones that he did flirt back with and maybe had sex with, I wasn't jealous, but that was likely due to the way he described his encounter. he wasn't crude about it even if it actually was dirty and rough sex for all I know, but there's a difference in the way that you present it, so if you don't want your s.o. to get mad, then maybe don't say; I fucked those 20 bitches and they wanted my big donkeykong and you want this, too
or something macho nacho that sounds like a douchebag. instead he described it in a way that I even imagined that I was the girl that he kissed and then had sex with. my guy has a way with words. he's so much like me
we try to 1-up one another with the seduction
our romance is like that suspenseful tango dance where the tension is high, and we rub up against each other, but we tease and look at each other intensely with passion as we explode on the inside
later it turns into the paso doble where he charges at me like a bull and pins me hard
oh yeah, my number isn't high, because my pet hamster gnawed off their peanut before anything happened. j/k guys have been more jealous over the feelings that I used to have for a few past guys than sex related things, and it has to do with the way that I describe my feelings, which if you've noticed, I go fangirl crazy and the guys probably wish that I worshipped them like a kpop star.
That can be solved by sleeping with as many people as possible, thus ensuring that yours is higher.
Threesomes and foursomes are fun! I like seeing my bf doing someone else. It turns me on. Sometimes when I'm alone I touch myself and think about him doing someone else.
I'm kinda confused, why wouldn't you feel good when seeing your bf having fun.. ?
p.s.
if my bf doesn't like me sleeping with other peeps, I won't, but I feel it's kinda selfish not to share. I sorta feel like I'm neglecting peeps and feel bad
Attitude is more important than numbers. I'd rather date someone who'd slept with ten people in committed relationships than someone who'd slept with five drunken one-night stands.
i haven't slept with that many girls, so yeah, this would be a huge fucking problem for me. we'd have to have an n-some, where n is the difference in the number of people with whom each of us has slept + 1. kind of like this dude did.
you should introduce me to your friend, though. she seems kind of fun.
It didn't bother me much. And I agree with you. Who cares? Really, who the hell cares?
I really don't ask. As you said, as long as he is clean and just sleeping with me (or he is a virgin, I would appreciate him letting me know that beforehand, or he had a kid, also need to know info) what is to be upset about? Dude was just looking for an excuse to have a threesome.
Talking about threesomes...including your best friend is a no no. Regardless of their gender. My friend had a threesome with her bestie, and boyfriend. Why? I'm not too sure, but the results were horrendous. She started getting jealous, and angry that her boyfriend might be having feelings for her bestfriend after that one night that she initiated. Ugly.
I don't think numbers should matter. I do not make a habit of asking people how many people they've slept with if I'm interested in them or want to sleep with them. I just want to know if they've been tested and if they're clear. I think numbers are a private matter unless both people are comfortable talking about it. For the record, my number is low. I'm not ashamed of my number. I just think it's my business only.
I would be bothered if it were a number that were higher than 10. Hey feminists... do you hear that? I wouldn't be comfortable with a SLUTTY guy. I prefer someone at least a little discriminate.
Not that I was an angel myself. But a difference of 1-2 isn't a big deal when neither of you are virgins.
@Semper_medusa@xanga - Being a virgin doesn't guarantee that this person won't want to do things that you don't. On the contrary, since this person has no experience with anything, there may be things that the person has heard about or seen somewhere that they would really like to try that you might not. You never know.
I agree with you. I think he was just using her number has an excuse to have a threesome. The girlfriend is an idiot for agreeing.
I don't think the number of partners should matter. If you're clean, then I'm good. My boyfriend and I told each other our numbers. We're not ashamed of our numbers because it's our business. We know that everything prior to us doesn't matter. We started fresh as a couple
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It really shouldn't matter. The past is the past and all that matters is that at present, I'm the only person you're sleeping with. Think of it the other way around. Would you expect your partner to care or be upset about the number of people YOU'D slept with? No, you'd want them to get over it and not think about it. So that's exactly what you should do. Of course, make sure they're clean if their number is ridiculously high. But other than that, no need to worry about it.
@Persiankitty@xanga - However, it does, in all likelihood, mean he won't FORCE me....because he's kept it in his pants for that long.