i do want to experience pregnancy some day.  i accept that that's totally selfish, and i don't think that selfishness is always a bad thing.  if nothing else, i'd insist on being a surrogate for another woman.  

I don't want children, biological or otherwise, mostly due to the world becoming overpopulated as it is and although I do feel as though I could find a way to make it work financially, the added stress of not having a steady/well paying job has me personally opposed to the idea of deliberately making my situation more difficult than it already is right now just for the sake of making my SO happy, but this is of course coming from someone who doesn't foresee himself being in a relationship again. If I knocked someone up, of course I'd take responsibility and do my best to provide for them (that is, my SO and my spawn), but as for intentionally adopting... considering my current financial, occupational, residential, and relationship status, I'd decline, but I could probably still be convinced anyway.

And yes, I said "spawn" to be humorous.

Adopt kids, not styles.

I would be happy with adoption or my own biological children, but if a guy told me what I would have to choose, then that would change things.

She did the right thing. I want kids (both biological and adopted) and I wouldn't date someone who was totally against that. Better to find it out early on before you both get too attached.

I wouldn't end the relationship. I don't mind adopting, but I do want to have my own children as well. I guess the deal breaker would be if he didn't want to compromise with me about that (adopting and having our own children). I would totally understand if he was infertile; that's not something to break up over unless you're really adamant on having children of your own. I want to go through pregnancy and experience the birthing process, but sometimes it's not meant to be -- so if I could adopt and assist in another child's life, I'm all for it.

Luckily, my boyfriend wants to have children in the future...if we are still together by then, lol.

If one person really wants biological children and the other doesn't, regardless of reasoning, it's probably best that those two individuals not stay together, otherwise they will live with tons of resentment towards one another and neither will ever be truly happy. Same goes for other issues that couples can't agree on. If there's something that somebody absolutely desires and the other person absolutely does not, it's just not going to work. Whether they admit it or not, there will be resentment and unhappiness, and maybe further down the road tons of regret. That's not a good way to live life. You need to know what you want and find someone who supports that. There's really no reason to be with someone who wants different things.

If a person is simply not biologically capable of having children, that's a different story. Some people can handle it and stay together, and sometimes it just tears couples apart. It really depends on the people involved.

I would love to adopt, but at the same time, my husbband said that if we ever had a biological child, he is scared he would favor that child over another. It sounds bad, but I understood an appreciated his honesty. I would never want to put a child in that situation. Especially after reading a blog like this.

It personally doesn't matter to me, at least now, because I don't have a need to be pregnant. I'm not even sure if I want children or not, it really depends on who I'm with, what I'm doing with my life, and when the kids are coming. If I get pregnant without planning to do so, then I guess I will just roll with the punches and embrace the whole pregnancy/motherhood thing (since I really couldn't justify abortion or adoption at this point in my life, even if the father isn't my husband and doesn't want it).

But I do understand a woman breaking up with a guy because of it. Some women will not be happy unless they are pregnant. That is why even when a couple has issues conceiving, women run to the fertility doctor and try everything and anything to be pregnant, spending more money than they would looking into adoption instead. I personally don't like the idea, but I understand why these women do it, I do. Being pregnant is a unique experience only women can have, and an essential experience for these women. It is much better for her to leave the guy now, than stay with him, and be unhappy, or worse, trick him into getting her pregnant.

Yes it would be a deal breaker for me. I want to experience pregnancy, to  be preggers with my mans baby. :) If he couldn't understand that natural need of a woman, then he can get. If he and I both can reproduce, I don't see why we would have to adopt all our children. HOWEVER. I would be open to adoption once I have a kid of my own, so I'd have had that experience. I have nothing against adoption but if our stuff works properly, I want to at least have a kid that way too! 

Hmmm...  I used to really want children of my own.  I'd been day dreaming of the time when I could become a father since the seventh grade, so much so that at times my motivations in relationships seemed questionable.  hahahaha, I won't go into any further detail there, but as the years progressed, the urge calmed down, but the desire still existed.  In my younger years, I never would have considered adopting.  The kids needed to be from my seed.  Things changed when I had the opportunity to raise my niece like a single father between the ages of 12 months and three years.  I realized a few things, I make a darn great parent, I don't want children right now, but I do want them soon(ish), and that I don't need to biologically sire the child for me to love them and provide all the things they need, while getting my own parenting needs met as well.  I've had to defend my stance to a few friends on wanting to adopt rather than procreate.  I am totally for adopting over procreating in my own life.  Let others do what they will.  Though, here's something to consider.  The guy may have been plenty fertile.  His cup could have runneth over and such. But what if he's got a terrible pedigree?  Sometimes you get surprised by your capacity to love, but how much is too much to take, say if your family has a history of some illness and your child would be high risk for receiving it?  Wouldn't it be a relief that you can get a child free of that legacy and still raise and love them as your own. I've seen several parents walk away from their children because they had developmental disabilities like autism and mental retardation.  And I'm sure their family genetics seemed fine.  I'm only suggesting that fertility may not be the only reason. 
You dream about playing catch with your children, racing them down the street in a soapbox derby, teaching them to ride a bike, and how to swim, and this idea builds up in your mind for years of all the great times you're going to have and then the nurse makes a face during the ultrasound, and you can hear the snap of a fragile dream in the center of your chest, and unfortunately, as upstanding and responsible as you thought you were, you might feel, that this is just asking for too much.  Not everyone is committed to the kind of nobility it takes to raise a child with these kind of challenges, even when it's their own.  Cheers! 

For me, it's a dealbreaker if a significant other insists on biological children with me. I never want to be pregnant. I'm skeptical that I'll ever want children at all, but I wouldn't necessarily be opposed if my significant other was the primary caretaker.

@AmorVomnia7@xanga - Maybe I'm missing a point being made, but can't you just use a surrogate (instead of an artificial womb)?