July 8th's New York Times has an
article about the latest post-wedding trend, a buddymoon. What is a buddymoon, you ask? It's exactly like a honeymoon - except that the newlyweds' friends and family go with them.
Sound crazy? Perhaps. But there are several reasons that one might choose to go on a buddymoon, as pointed out by the Times. Some couples don't see their loved ones often, and relish the chance to go on vacation with them. Due to the waning economy, other couples treat the honeymoon as their 'big vacation' of the year. Still others just like having friends along.
W. Bradford Wilcox, director of the University of Virginia's National Marriage Project, put it this way.
"Today, when about 65% of couples cohabitate prior to marriage, the honeymoon is less likely to be a major turning point in their relationship," Wilcox told the Times. "[H]aving friends come along...makes it more of a special and exceptional occasion."
While I understand the sentiment behind the buddymoon, I don't think I could ever do it. I can go on vacation with friends anytime I like. But a honeymoon is a once-in-a-lifetime experience (assuming, of course, that I don't divorce and get remarried).
The article does highlight the importance of giving newlyweds alone time. Even so, this is the only time I can be with someone I'm spending the rest of my life with with no obligations of any kind. I'd like to savor the first few days of being with my new husband and enjoying being married before I have to return to real life.
Furthermore, your honeymoon is the only time in your life you can have as much sex as you like without feeling guilty about other things you ought to be doing. Why would you ruin that experience by bringing along your friends? Or worse, your mother?
Would you go on a buddymoon? If you already have, how was your experience?
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No...I would not go on a buddymoon. I plan to fuck the hell out of my husband and well...we may never even leave the room. Family vacations are for spending time with family...Honeymoons are for enjoying the honey...the very sweet delious honey.
No, I would not go on a buddymoon. After the wedding, it should be just you and your spouse to enjoy each other's company. If you want to go on a vacation with friends and family, go on vacation with friends and family. They should be 2 separate types of outings.
That sounds decidedly not fun.
sounds like something from "lots of rich people" magazine
that's like bringing your parents to prom. I might as well not go to prom or have a honeymoon if they are there. don't bring sand to the beach. that's what thanksgiving is for; family gathering. but on my honeymoon; NO WAY
Well..considering we waited until the wedding night...most definitely, "No!". In the most loving way possible.
That's a terrible idea. The only way it could possibly work is if the friends/family joined you after a good week of couple time first.
F*ck that.
No way. We do go on vacations with my family and we have with his family... why on earth would we do it during the honeymoon?
My friend just did camping with family after his honeymoon. I thought it was a little long of a vacation (there's the workaholic in me....), but otherwise a great idea.
on my honeymoon it should be about me and my honey, and that's it. besides, i know i'm going some place awesome and new and we'll be adventuring the fuck out of our first married vacation--family wouldn't be able to keep up.
I don't even like the name they give it... its just a terrible honeymoon. fun family vacation, but not a honeymoon.
To me, the whole point of a Honeymoon is to spend time, just you and your new spouse, together and learn more about each other. You can't do that when there are other people you know around. My boyfriend told me that he wouldn't mind getting married in the keys and then honeymooning down there. We want to invite people to the wedding, but I told him my one condition would be that NO ONE could know which island we were honeymooning on, because I want that alone time with just him and me. He completely agreed thank goodness. Maybe I feel this way because we're both virgins, so our honeymoon will be our first week just the two of us, and obviously our first time having sex. But, no I don't like the idea of the "buddymoon". That's what family vacations are for...
nope, just me and him, him and me.
but "
Furthermore, your honeymoon is the only time in your life you can
have as much sex as you like without feeling guilty about other things
you ought to be doing."
What? I guess I didn't get the memo! I've been living it up BIG time!
Friends? Sure. Family? Hell no.
And this: "Furthermore, your honeymoon is the only time in your life you can have as much sex as you like without feeling guilty about other things you ought to be doing." Why on earth would you feel guilty about having sex with your spouse? My husband and I still fuck like rabbits after six years of marriage, and not once have we ever felt guilty about it.
this is for men who havent cut the umbilical cord and women who want to brag to their friends about the wonderful things they've done on their honey moon so she invites them along. and of course the ones who feel guilty that the family flew in from all parts of the country to go to a wedding -- they might as well be part of the honey moon right?! to get their vacations worth! -- Wrong.
no way
Didn't you ever read the Berenstain Bears? People (or bears, as the case may be) can have second honeymoons!