July 8th's New York Times has an article
about the latest post-wedding trend, a buddymoon. What is a buddymoon, you ask? It's exactly like a honeymoon - except that the newlyweds' friends and family go with them.
Sound crazy? Perhaps. But there are several reasons that one might choose to go on a buddymoon, as pointed out by the Times. Some couples don't see their loved ones often, and relish the chance to go on vacation with them. Due to the waning economy, other couples treat the honeymoon as their 'big vacation' of the year. Still others just like having friends along.
W. Bradford Wilcox, director of the University of Virginia's National Marriage Project, put it this way.
"Today, when about 65% of couples cohabitate prior to marriage, the honeymoon is less likely to be a major turning point in their relationship," Wilcox told the Times. "[H]aving friends come along...makes it more of a special and exceptional occasion."
While I understand the sentiment behind the buddymoon, I don't think I could ever do it. I can go on vacation with friends anytime I like. But a honeymoon is a once-in-a-lifetime experience (assuming, of course, that I don't divorce and get remarried).
The article does highlight the importance of giving newlyweds alone time. Even so, this is the only time I can be with someone I'm spending the rest of my life with with no obligations of any kind. I'd like to savor the first few days of being with my new husband and enjoying being married before I have to return to real life.
Furthermore, your honeymoon is the only time in your life you can have as much sex as you like without feeling guilty about other things you ought to be doing. Why would you ruin that experience by bringing along your friends? Or worse, your mother?Would you go on a buddymoon? If you already have, how was your experience?