I watch a lot of TV, which is where I get the inspiration for many of my Datingish posts? Today's post is inspired by one of my favorite sitcoms of all time,
How I Met Your Mother.
Marshall and Lily have just gotten engaged. In "The Duel," (Season 1, Episode 8), Lily realizes that she's been evicted from her apartment, and moves in with Marshall and his roommate/best-friend Ted. Ted, nervous that Lily and Marshall are edging him out of the apartment, starts acting passive-aggressively. Long story short, Ted and Marshall end up getting into a duel and accidentally stabbing Lily in the shoulder.
Chances are you've never accidentally stabbed someone you know, although if you have I'd love to hear about it.
Having issues with a friend's S/O, however, is a whole different story.It's always awkward when you dislike your friend's S/O. It's one thing if the S/O is bad for your friend - for example, cheating on them and you find out. In that case, interfere away.
But a lot of the times, the S/O and your friend are great together. It's just the S/O you're not a fan of. Maybe, like Ted, you're jealous. Or maybe it's something else.
If this is the case, I advocate the "If you're happy, I'm happy" philosophy. Stay civil and try to hang out with only your own friend. You can hope they break up all you want, but for the love of god, don't tell them!
And if you're the one with the friend that hates S/O? Just because they don't love each other doesn't mean they don't love (or at least really like) you. And if your relationship, your friendship, or both fizzle out for this reason, you need new friends. And a new relationship.
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I've never hated any of my friends S/Os. If I do, I figure I am not the one in a relationship with them so I can get over it and act like a decent person for the time I may have to spend with them. The closest I have come to this was a potential significant other hated one of my friends to the point he was a complete and total dick to her. He didn't see what the big deal was so he was friend zoned real quick.
If I hated my friend's S/O then I probably don't like my friend that much. Either that, or I don't know the real person that my friend is. Simple. People want to be with someone they have things in common with, or someone who understands them and the other way around too. And your rule is right, unless the person is wrong for your friend, then you should try to be happy for them.
my friend's girlfriend hates me--or at least, if she loves me, is kind of a bitch to me--cause she disapproves of my offensive language and jokes and promiscuous behavior. (the ironic thing being that this friend was far more promiscuous than i was before settling with this girl.) i swore i'd never visit again after the last time i saw them. i'd never tell him to break up with her though. she's right for him and it's not my position to interfere.
ex best friend is dating an alcoholic douche. It's her choice and there's no way she will want to listen to "I think your SO is a bad influence on you and you should move on". He's attacked cops, gotten alcohol poisoning and insists on having parties nearly every other night. So personally I would just tell them what I think then walk away and let them do what they want. If people don't want to change then you have nothing to worry about.
I don't have many close friends to care about their s.o.'s. my best friend's s.o. is me since my bf is also my best friend. I love her so much
she is the most amazing person ever
bunny approved!
I hate my best friend's fiance. I've been friends with the girl since we were three years old (we're now 23). She's been in a lot of terrible relationships because she has low self esteem and was made fun of a lot in school for being different. She had a gothic phase and likes a lot of things that were unpopular, anime, etc...
But then she met the guy she's with....when they first started dating, he told her to end our friendship. Sorry guys, I don't care what you have, you're not ending a friends that's as long and solid as ours. Of course she didn't end it, she told him he was crazy and that I've always been her best friend.
He's incredibly jealous --- when she went to my little brother's 5th party he freaked out about who was going to be there. Seriously? My family and a bunch of other 5 year olds. He's been caught in lies several times - who he's with and where he was and he doesn't seem to want to grow up. He's 27 years old and still lives at home (then again so does she).
Our personalities just clash and I really don't think he's good for her. I've told her before and she says I appreciate you for telling me. Sometimes he makes mistakes, but he's mostly good to me and he makes me happy. So there's not much else for me to do. I know I'll always be friends with the girl and I'll probably always hope she finds someone else, but... if she's happy.... okay.
Ive been in the position of being the SO the friends didn't like... Actually it was only 1 friend who didn't like me, and she tried everything to break us up... Including acting like she was my friend and trying to convince me that he was cheating on me. She kept it up after we got married too, to the point where my hubby finally told her to get lost.. she was a little too psychotic to keep around
I've never hated a friend's SO. My best friend tends to date guys that I don't think are good enough for her, but I've never hated any of them.
I think some of my ex-boyfriend's friends didn't really like me. I think they thought I was a bitch because I never talked around them (of course this was because all did was talk about each other and weed and I never had much to contribute). They were always nice enough to me, but I know they weren't particularly disappointed when we broke up.
There are times when I've been jealous because my friend's attention has newly been redirected toward an SO, but I've never outright disliked on unless they've proven to be abusive, a cheater, or generally a very bad person. So basically I never hate a friend's SO until they don't like them anymore.
I didn't like a guy that my best friend dated for about 3 years. The truth is we were too much alike. Much too pushy and opinionated. We didn't mesh well.
My best friend started dating this girl who I wasn't too keen on when I first met her. As I got to know her more, I began to like her less & less (I didn't think she was good enough for him, actually). I even spoke to him about how it seemed she didn't treat him very well.
But he eventually married this girl - so I buried the hatchet and let it go. What else can ya do, right?
When my friend's husband found out they were having a baby, he asked why can't they be "lucky" and miscarry like my husband and I did. He said within days or weeks of us losing our second child. Needless to say, I don't like the guy and I doubt I will ever forgive him. She did kick him in the head, at least.
I also don't like my sister's boyfriend. He's got two bastards now, one with her and one with someone else. He teases his other kid and thinks it's funny to piss him off. He drinks too much. He stole her truck and may have been sleeping with someone else when they took a break while my sister was pregnant. He's half redneck which just annoys the hell out of me and I can hardly understand him when he talks.
How can i hug a tiger like that???
I hated the girl my best friend was dating, mostly because she hurt him a couple of times and they were off and on for awhile. Likewise, he's not a fan of my boyfriend. It doesn't necessarily ruin a relationship but it definitely puts a damper on things.