In J. Jaque's excellent webcomic "Questionable Content" (www.questionablecontent.net), there is a scene where two outcast women characters named Hanners and Marigold are talking. Hanners is wondering why Marigold constantly avoids and runs away from Sven, a handsome dude who is the constant object of affection of crowds of young women. Marigold responds, "He's PRETTY. Pretty people are NEVER nice."
I found Marigold's response to be so poignant. Of course it's taken for granted that women will drool over handsome men. It's also taken for granted that some women will be frightened of men, usually because of a past history of abuse or general nervousness.
Still, what about women who are frightened of men -usually handsome men- for another reason? What about dowdy, unattractive young women with pimples and overall low self-esteem (Marigold is drawn this way in "Questionable Content") who associate handsome men with romantic rejection? Whenever they see a handsome man, they skip over the "Oh wow, he's hot!" part and get to the "Oh, he's gonna turn me down or laugh at me and I am going to cry so much... again."
We all know the chick flicks where the women yearn and go "ooh" and "aah" over handsome men. Some of the chick flicks will also feature a token fat girl, usually a sassy broad who will admire the handsome man with the rest of girls. Still, the audience knows that the fat girl will never end up with the handsome man.
In reality, whenever my heavier girl friends meet a handsome guy, the girls just fold their lips and look away. They look frightened, like they know that in reality less attractive women are not allowed to admire handsome men. I've seen my less attractive guy friends sometimes act the same way around hot chicks.... but not to the same degree of discomfort that my less attractive girl friend act around guy friends. It's interesting.
What do you think? Are you frightened of handsome men? Are you automatically reminded of rejection whenever you see a handsome man?