Tuesday, 10 July 2012
How many of you have introduced a boyfriend or girlfriend to your parents? How many times have you regretted that decision shortly after? It's one of those instances where you live and you learn or you get over it!
Dating someone you're happy to flaunt around is a joyous thing. You should be happy with the one you're with and want to share that happiness with those surrounding you. So you take them around your friends when you all go out for dinner, bowling or the movies. When their friends invite them places, you're right by their side because their friends have already heard so much about you and your relationship. It's good to be in love. But no matter how much awe you're in, the last people you introduce them to...are your parents.
The most critical point of a relationship is meeting the family. Your parents could either embrace or deny all you've built this person up to be. So caution is sure to be taken.
You don't introduce everyone you date to your folks. Well, at least I don't. There are certain people you just know they won't approve of, but something gravitates you toward them, so you just decide to keep them both on opposite ends of the spectrum.
Then, there's the case where your parents, or parent, may adore the man or woman you bring home. They start coming over for dinner, being invited to family functions, staying the night when it's too late to head home. They've grown to trust this person and treat them like they're apart of the family.
Then, things don't work out and the relationship comes to an end. But, this person still comes over for a plate of food on Sunday. Your mom still calls him to fix anything that's broken in the house. They're still invited to family functions. At what point does this cross over from uncomfortable to just plain disrespectful?
When a relationship is over, where should the loyalty lie, if any? Is it okay for your parents to disregard your feelings and still flaunt a relationship they have built with someone you are no longer interested in keeping any form of contact with?
Though, some parents may not see it this way, it's a huge form of disrespect! When the ties are cut between a relationship, don't think that person wants to constantly be in the presence of their ex, simply because you don't want to fall from a friendship that was formed through them in the first place!
Is it petty? It may very well be. But it's also justified. No one wants the constant reminder of what could've been, but never was. Parents should respect the feelings of their child above all else.
Please tell me, am I wrong?