Thursday, 05 July 2012
This post was submitted anonymously.
She's 24 and I'm 25. She lives in Boston, I live in NYC. I spent New Years and Valentine's Day with her. We exchanged Christmas gifts also (she didn't get me anything cheap) and I never slept with her.
This girl I've been close friends with for almost 2 years randomly texted me (at 2AM) that she now has a bf. We have kissed before (she has also stayed at my house, etc.) and she has also lied to me about having a boyfriend before but this time she told me she doesn't want me to talk to her anymore due to this bf.
She wont tell me anything about the guy (who he is, what he does, how they met, etc.) and I did what she asked and backed off (even though I'm 95% sure she doesn't have one). The weird part is her close friends invited me to her surprise birthday party and even though I couldn't make it, I sent her a text message wishing her "Happy Birthday." She replies, "Why don't you stop contacting me?"
The part that confuses me is, why would her friends invite me if they knew about her boyfriend and the situation in general? Also why would she reply to my Bday text more than 27 hours later with that comment (if she really didn't want to talk to me why would she reply?)
It started to somewhat affect my work so my friends and coworkers suggested that I try to talk it over with her. I texted her a message saying, "We've been friends for almost two years and I would hate to see it end due to our argument or due to your boyfriend. Can we arrange sometime during the week to talk about this?"
Not even 30 seconds later I received a message saying, "Sorry I haven't been able to talk/contact you. I'll do that sometime later this week." She didn't contact me until Sunday night at 9PM saying, "Sorry I've been busy... I'll contact you in week or so," so I told her, "I'll contact you during the week instead."
Later in the week when I called her, she said she was out with her "fambam" and with her boyfriend. It turns out she wasn't (a little birdie told me). I told her it was okay and I simply wanted to talk about our situation, not her boyfriend. I told her I would contact her after the Olympic trials (and asked her to cheer for me) which I followed by saying, "Anything you can do, I can do better!" (A joke we used to make all the time; guess it wasn't smart to do it now).
She replies four days later saying,
"No you can't because he has something you don't and will never have... me. So please delete my phone number because I don't need anyone else but him. If you ever think you're gonna be better, you already lost my friendship. Thanks for everything and goodbye. Please leave me alone, thank you. Just remember, you'll never be anything to me. Delete me because this is the last message you'll be getting."
Whoa. Where did this all come from? How can I figure out what's going on if she won't even talk to me? I really value the friendship we had and don't want to lose it.