Tuesday, 03 July 2012
The title says it all... it feels as though my relationship with my boyfriend of over 3 years has gotten a bit stale recently, and not just in the last few weeks. I'm not sure when the sluggish feeling infiltrated our relationship, but right now it's doing a bit of damage on both sides. The problem? Time, money, and energy.
-Time: Until recently, I was working an internship and a part-time job, which gave me limited time to do anything with him. Now that my internship has ended, I'm only working part-time. He started a new job several months ago that requires him to wake up at 2:30AM six days a week, and he usually gets off of work anywhere from 8AM to 1PM.
-Money: We have been living together since our 6 month anniversary (aka 2 1/2 years), therefore we pretty much consider our resources to be pooled though we still keep our finances pretty separate and equal (though not entirely). I am also in debt to my brother (another story entirely) due to my school loans. Money is tight and we can only afford to spend little.
-Energy: This is mostly his issue. He is tired all the time because of his grueling work schedule so he doesn't want to do anything that requires energy. AKA everything that I like to do (swimming, hiking, biking, etc).
I'm at a loss of what to do to give my relationship a much needed jolt. I've tried to be more forward with sex (which is a request he has made before) but I need more than that to feel that we still have that same connection.
Help! Any advice (that does not advocate breakup or talking about it more with him) or ideas for fun things to do that do not require much money/energy?