Tuesday, 03 July 2012
I think introverts are one of the most misunderstood kind of people. People assimilate introversion with quietness and shyness, but they don’t always go together. Sometimes introverts come off as rude, and maybe they are a bit. My girlfriend has told me she doesn’t want to waste words on people she doesn’t want to speak to. I find it arrogant, in a very intoxicating kind of way.
When you gain the trust of an introvert its like finding the key to a lock that everyone else either gave up, or didn’t bother looking for. People who cast off introverts as quiet and boring are idiots. Introverts are not quiet when they trust you. They pick their moments. Some days I make conversations with myself. Other days she can’t shut up, and I sit there wondering when our relationship got so loud.
She can be the most vicious little bitch I know, but people are too busy being loud and obnoxious to notice her judging them. She laughs at them for the number of words they use, and how little their words mean. She doesn’t understand why you would waste words when saying nothing makes more sense.
If you date an introvert there is no point in trying to “bring them out their shell.” Some have shells, and some don’t. Some want to talk more, and some are comfy just as they are. It’s not for loud people to make introverts talk. If you want to befriend, or date, an introvert you need to learn to shut up and not force conversations. Silences aren’t awkward. They aren’t blank spaces that always need to be filled up.
Angry introverts are scarier than angry extroverts. And you have to wait hours for the argument. When my girlfriend’s upset with me I know the hurt I’ve caused, and the way she chooses to express it, has been clearly thought out. An introvert’s hard words are like diamonds. They can cut you in half.
If you have one in your life don’t let them go. From what I’ve learned from being with one, once you lose an introvert’s trust, you lose them forever. I hope to never find out.
Have you ever been lucky enough to date an introvert?