Sunday, 01 July 2012
But as you settle into a relationship, and remember that doing well at your job is of some relevance, things get back to normal. But within the daily timetable of eat, sleep and work, do you consciously schedule sex?
I remember being horrified when my girlfriend and I stopped having sex every night. Even now I feel a bit whimsical about the good old days: It was so fun to just abandon life and fall in love.
Sure, “horror” is a bit of an overreaction, but having regular sex is important. And when lust chills out sex can get pushed to the side when your timetable gets filled up with boring shit like buying milk.
It sounds unromantic but I’ve heard that scheduling sex can work. Not along the lines of “tongue Tuesday” or “flick my bean Friday” but I know I definitely find comfort in having sex “so many times a week.”
This spring, about to fall asleep, I realized I was about to go a whole week without sex for the first time in our yearlong relationship. Needless to say I rallied. I’m 23, and I’m not ready to succumb to a fortnightly fuck just yet.
Are you a scheduler, or more “let’s go with the flow” when it comes to your sex schedule? Are you even conscious of it?