Breakups suck. I'm not talking when you break it off with someone you've been casually seeing. Sure, this can be painful, but is generally curable with a few glasses of wine.
But breakups with an exclusive S/O are a whole different story, no matter the length of the relationship or which one is doing the dumping. The dumpee feels rejected, and the dumper doesn't want to hurt someone they care about. And both lose someone who was important to them - an importance that doesn't immediately disappear when the relationship ends.
So breakups are generally terrible. But there's also one moment that's the worst. Perhaps it's the first time you see your ex out with another. When something good happens to you and you immediately want to tell your ex, only to realize that's not how life goes anymore. When they finish moving out of your apartment, and you're left with just your own belongings and your tears.
For me, it's the morning after the breakup. When I fall asleep, I can erase what happened the night before and enter a blissful world of nothingness. When I wake up and the memories of the night come flooding back, I break down in tears. Nothing about a breakup is easy, but that moment is the worst.
What do you think? For you, what's the worst part of a breakup?Image Source
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The worst part of breaking up is trying to move on and meeting people who are worse.
The worst part for me, recently, was seeing him move on so quickly when he was the one who wanted to stay together in the first place.
And I agree with the above comment^. I've only met people who seem worse unfortunately.
I know my situation is kind of unique but my boyfriend was having a really hard time with things in his life so he pulled away and I was tired of trying so hard to only have him pull away so I decided to just give him time to sort things out and then try to fix things between us. I never got the chance because 2 days after I said some hurtful things to him he passed away. So I guess the worst thing about a break up is saying things you'll regret that you can never take back.
That's a very broad question. It depends on how long you were together, what caused the break up & ultimately how you break up.
For me personally, the worst break up I had is one I didnt see coming. We were going fine & all of a sudden he broke up with me VIA aol messenger back when I was a senior in high school. That break up was devastating in many way that affected me for years because it was one sided & out of no where & we were friends for 4 years before we started dating so I lost a friend AND a boyfriend. I'm not saying dont ever date friends but some people can date & revert back to how things were but not in my case. Come to find out YEARS later when he contacted me it was because I was moving out of state & he didnt think he could handle it but he didnt want to tell me in person. For all that, he could have told me the truth instead of lying about it just to end the relationship.
I might have to agree with your answer. There's nothing, to me, quite so painful as finally falling asleep and then waking up the next day back to reality. When everything comes flooding back, it's hard for me to accept that this is my life now. Ya know, that it's over.
Also seeing someone move on so quickly is exceptionally painful.
Trying to get used to a new routine. It's difficult when you can't see them like you used to. Moving on is what's most difficult I think.
Definitely the morning after, or the little memory flash backs you have. I'm over all of my exes now, but every once and a while, I get a memory flash of a time spent with one of them, and I shake it out quick.
It also hurts when the break up cause is a lie. I had a boyfriend once that told me he was breaking up with me because his dad didn't like me, but I'd never met his dad before. He kept me hanging on for days and then finally said, "You're annoying." Eh, I got over it quick needless to say, because he wasn't really a good guy anyways, but it was still bothersome he lied, even if he wanted to save me from the hurt.
for me, it was definitely coming home every night w/o him there. i was so used to having him there and having someone to talk to. the 1st day after the break up, i had the worst day and all i wanted to do was pick up my phone and just call him but i couldn't. i hate break ups. i never want to go through it ever.
I cry my eyes out like a baby
whenever I miss someone so much. I don't just cry over a guy or breakup. I have this weird thing when people visit me and then when they leave, it's so hard to say goodbye and I remember one time, I ran inside my room to cry after I waved goodbye. I thought that I didn't like them, but when they left, I just couldn't help it and cried. so I have a hard shell but I'm a softy
I'll get mad and might say that I hate his guts, but deep down, I lav him
however, it depends on the situation. if I really loved him, I'll cry, be sad, etc. if not, or he did something to really hurt me and crossed the line, I'll just get mad, make the pfft face and wutev, ur loss loserrr
I haven't lived with a s.o. I'm too territorial of my own place to live with a s.o. or anyone. I really feel that it is an invasion if living with a s.o. but that's likely because I'm so used to being on my own. thus, just because I'm with someone and we're a couple doesn't mean that we'll live together or share everything. unless...he is also a perfectionist and feel similarly, so the thought of having me over at his place would send him in a frenzy because he doesn't want anyone messing up his organized home, which would work great since neither of us would feel alienated due to being of the same mentality
I discussed it with my s.o. and we decided that if we ever live together, we'll have many rooms. each have our own room, then a sex room
, a media entertainment center room amongst other rooms. it'll be like the beetlejuice movie when he dies and goes to hell, then he opens all these doors of different rooms that display different themes. who knew that a movie about the afterlife would inspire my future home
worst part of a break up is when one partner still has unrequited love for the other.
I think the worst part is figuring out how to spend your days. I mean it sounds gloomy but when you're with someone and you spend a lot of time together, it can be weird doing stuff without them. I mean eventually you figure it out but for awhile you can feel lost. Another tough part I think is explaining to family and friends. Because they always pull the "awww what happened" and the "you guys were so great together" and it can get awkward fast.
That moment you talk about, I have to agree, it's one of the most crushing moments for me. I think my addition would be playing it back in your head, wondering what if this or that and trying to just accept what happened has happened and the what ifs don't matter.
Seeing them for the first time sucks too. I rarely ever had to see an ex again after the break up because I dated people outside my life sphere, but I had my first experience recently walking into a place I normally hang out and bam, he is there also hanging out.
Ah yes, and dealing with events you had planned to be together for. My boyfriend was supposed to come to my graduation, and when we broke up a week beforehand, the day was so bittersweet because it wasn't how it was supposed to be for me. It also hit me yesterday that if we hadn't broken up, he would be here with me this week, visiting me at my parent's home where I have been all summer. I try not to think about it, that if things had gone differently, he'd be here.
For me, it's the dreams. I mean literally. Years after they are gone, sometimes I have dreams. It would be easy if they were nightmares, but they aren't. The girl kind of hangs in my head all day. It makes me wonder about the past and decisions that were made. I wish I could always get dumped. It's so much easier.
convenient timing, i got broken up with by my first love three weeks ago. we dated for a year, we will be seniors together both with a double major in english and theatre (all the classes we have yet to take together!)
the worst part was the day/week after. I couldn't eat. i felt physically weak. couldn't sleep and cried everyday. I even slept next to my mom one night cuz I was so sad.
When my first boyfriend ever broke up with me, in high school, the day after was the worst. couldn't eat as well.
I never had to see him with someone else though. I finally want him to be with someone else... I never loved him though.
I know that seeing my first love with someone else would be the worst part though. It hasn't happened yet. one reason i would have preferred breaking up next summer if necessary is that I wouldn't have to see him with someone else. We go to university but it's a small one and the theatre department is small... we are in senior seminar together and there's only like 7 people in that class. ahhhh I sure hope my last year of school is good no matter what!
The worst part for me was not being able to tell him things I normally would. Those daily texts we used to send when something reminded me about him - I couldn't text him any more and every time I wanted to but couldn't felt like a giant slap of reality to my face. So I guess it's part of breaking routine...
Waking up the next morning and realising things will never be the same.
To me it's definitely seeing him with someone else, and have that feeling of rejection all over again. It still stings.
The worst part of the break up is when you realize you're not pissed off anymore. Cuz then comes the crushing sadness.
woke up after dreaming of him
can't send a message when you wanna share sth happy
flash back every little moment we shared
seems every moment is worst......
I've only broken it off with someone once before. It didn't mean anything to me really. He treated me like garbage. I actually was heartbroken when someone I was casually seeing broke it off with me; I seriously starting liking him a lot (that awkward moment when you can't get over someone you never dated, lmao. I laugh about it now). It took me a few months to get over it and then I met my current boyfriend. I don't want to know how it would feel to breakup with my SO because I'm completely in love with the guy. I never felt this way for someone; love has never been this real for me. I can only imagine a break up being entirely dreadful. I would feel like a part of me was missing.
The worst part is when the person you loved now seems like someone totally different. You know that the incredible feeling you once had is gone forever, and recalling the memory does nothing but twist up your insides.
The morning after is pretty bad. Also telling people about it. I had the worst time explaining to people what happened because I hate talking about stuff like that. I'd get really emotional and I'd try to change the subject. Some people just wouldn't stop badgering me though, even though they knew how private I am.
The worst thing for me is what I'm currently going through. We both still want each other, aren't interested in other people, or even the IDEA of other people any time in the future, but his mental disorder gets in the way of our having a functional relationship, even though the majority of the time we make each other really, really happy.
Because right now, I seriously feel like dying.
ugh, several mornings after. and that weird physical pain you feel all over. and forcing yourself to eat blegh. it took me way too long to get over my first bf and we only dated for 3 months. i think it would be just too awful to break up with my current boyfriend, because i actually truly love him and could see myself spending my life with him. of course, i would, if necessary but GOODNESS lets not think about that :(