Sunday, 01 July 2012
I recently talked to an old childhood friend of mine that I see every few weeks because she works at the stadium with my stepdad, and she pulled me close and started going on and on about how she had sex for the first time with her boyfriend of one month. I was a little shocked, since she didn't really seem like the girl to have sex, but needless to say, I was all ears. After her little story, she motioned towards my boyfriend and I. "You guys are still dating?" We have been dating for about 10 months.
I nodded, "Yeah, why?"
"Have you even had sex?"
"No..." I said slowly. I have been thinking about it since we've been dating for almost a year now, but I have been holding it off to wait to get the right protection besides condoms. I would feel a lot safer, and I know my mom would be more relieved about me growing up if I used the right stuff. (After all, she did get pregnant with me at 17....and I'm 17...) My friend said, "Well...that's odd... you can't really keep anyone around without having sex with them... how are you two still together?"
I didn't know what to say after that... so I just smiled. "Sex isn't everything." And it isn't, at some point. Yes, I know it relieves stress, brings lovers together closer, and is something really enjoyable, but I also know that sex shouldn't make up an entire relationship. I love my boyfriend and I have someone who respects my body and my wishes, and I'm pretty sure he doesn't mind us waiting judging by how long he's stayed with me.
I thought my friend was insane for saying that... but then again, everyone has their own opinions. But what really matters is the love the two people share for each other.
What do you think? Could you have a relationship without having sex? Is sex everything? Tell me your thoughts!