I don't think this post demonstrates a strong understanding of sexuality and gender.

As a girl who has bikini waxed other girls (and even as a bisexual girl who's done it) - that has a lot more to do with the fact that bikini waxing is really painful and it's easier for someone else to tear the wax off of you than to do it yourself. It's not necessarily sexual. It's "OH FUCK THIS HURTS PLEASE DO IT FOR ME."

Complimenting another girl's body is more about helping your friends' self esteem than about being attracted to them. Parts that are sexualized are also parts that receive a lot of criticism if they're not "perfect" - countering these with positive feedback isn't necessarily sexual, even if the words used are viewed as such by outsiders.

Making out while drunk COULD be sexual attraction... or it could be an act done to attract dudes, who the girls are actually attracted to.

Not all cuddling is sexual. Asexuals like cuddling. So do children. It's an emotionally/physically intimate act, perhaps, but that doesn't make it sexual.

Things are not always as they appear; in order to say a lot of acts are indicative of homosexual leanings, you have to know a lot more about context than "they did this thing that is sometimes gay!" (IMO, a lot of the things listed for guys are indicative more of sexual competition than sexual attraction...)

I do agree with your "bottom line," though.

@P0RCELA1N_D0LL@xanga - LOL!

@Edeline_Wrigh@xanga - I see what you're saying and you proved my point in a way, just because it looks or sounds "gay" doesn't mean its deserving of that label, things just aren't concrete enough pertaining to sexuality.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iKB7vAFTdA8

I never did any of those things you said other men often do... (actually I wonder how common they really are.)

Ironically, I am bisexual.

And it's not that I wouldn't want to... well, come to think of it, maybe it is. I don't like this idea of sex as competition, where someone wins and someone loses.

I'll drink a guy's cum, if I like him; but I don't want it to be seen as a punishment for losing. 

Also, since when is cumming fast winning? Try that with a woman and it's called "premature ejaculation".

i listen to rihanna, beyonce, and lady gaga, and think "call me maybe" is the best song in the fucking world.  if that's what defines me as gay, so be it.

@pnrj@xanga - Good point on the contest of cumming first. And you have the right to be who you are without judgment.

@pnrj@xanga - Homosexuality is objectively disordered. We don't need leftist medical establishments to tell us what we can see with our own two eyes.

@PrisonerxOfxLove@xanga - There is scientific evidence that claims being homosexual actually has an evolutionary basis. Its supposed to help raise the young by increasing the adult family members vs children in family ratio another research I've read suggested it was nature's way of controlling human population.

So science doesn't define it as disorder.

@Drew85@xanga - Although I originally just wanted to call you annoying, I'm just gonna thank you for correcting those two words and educating me on a subject that baffles most.

Glad we're at an agreement, it's always pleasnt 2 b on da saym payj...

Bleh. Another one of these. I don't know why everyone is so obsessed with proving that straight people have gay thoughts. What if I went around trying to convince gay people that they have straight thoughts? People would call me a Christian nutcase or something. I have an issue with some of your claims:

For example, yes, when I'm in a sexual relationship with a man I like to hold his hand, but that doesn't mean that every time I hold someone's hand I have sexual feelings for them. I hold little children's hands, does that mean I'm a pedophile? Also, as far as complimenting another woman's body, I think that usually actually has to do more with insecurity and self-awareness than sexuality. Also, I agree with someone else above who said that girls who make out with each other at parties are actually only doing it for male attention.

As far as those games you mentioned that men supposedly play, they do sound pretty homoerotic. However, you make them sound like they're commonplace and that the majority of young guys growing up play them - I highly doubt that. Also, if you're going to claim there is a great deal of scientific evidence showing homosexual thoughts in straight men, you should provide a link to some of that evidence.

Essentially, I think you're making a lot of assumptions and logical leaps here. I'm not saying that your claim ISN'T true, I just think the evidence you provide here is weak and fails to prove your point. Personally, I just take what people say about their sexuality at face value. If they say they're straight, I accept it. If they say they're gay, I accept that, too. It's none of my business and they know themselves better than I and I would never presume to tell them how they really feel.

@deargodkillme@xanga - Science is about proof, not story telling. Sexuality is about reproduction of the species.  Another reason homosexuality is disordered is because if everyone were homosexual then the human race would go extinct.

Also, imagine if homosexuality suddenly ceased to exist.

It would not be missed one single bit.  All former GLBT would breath a sigh of relief and move on happily with their lives.