It seems that everywhere I go, whether it is Xanga, YouTube or on the streets, interracial dating has become this big discussion. Some are for it, some are against it, some might be in it for all the wrong reasons. Want to know my stance on it? If it weren't for interracial relationships, I would be one lonely, lonely man.
As a man whose love life consisted of women that were and were not of my race, I'm here to say that there is absolutely nothing wrong with dating outside of your race. After all, I'm not a commodity. I'm a man with needs!
Growing up, it always seemed like I was not able to identify or connect with the girls of my race. Not only that, but the girls that I asked out never really took to me or my personality. I'm a black boy who likes cartoons, rock and electronic music, soccer, and comedy.
I was the kid who spoke to a black girl and was told back that I was better suited for a white girl. I was the kid who seemed to have more white friends than black ones. Interracial dating, to me, was no big deal because it meant that you had a greater chance of taking somebody to the movies on a Saturday night.
To me, trying to denounce interracial dating is no different than the idea of voting to segregate schools. When I go out with a white, Spanish, black, Asian, etc. girl, I see and hear one of many different characters of women. I see someone who could be my match. I see someone who could be my good friend. I see them as being the same as a black girl deep inside. With this in mind, I found it shameful that the majority of black people I knew either agreed or have a habit of limiting themselves.
I watched a vlog where a white girl was looked at funny by a couple of black girls, and the black women said the reason they did so is because
white women were taking all the good black men, as if we were hot commodities. In a much different video, there was a man who commented saying he left a black girl hanging because she said his chivalry made him seem made for a white girl. Even worse, there were plenty of people from my race that were either against dating or condemning the act.
So,
if there is any reason why interracial dating should be encouraged, it's to make it a cure for social ignorance and incompetence because that's what's keeping us from being able to understand each other as boys, girls, men and women.
That's why I say that anyone who thinks that dating outside of your race is wrong, they can all shove it down their pieholes. I was raised to believe that people are people. We are all different because we were born different or raised differently. There is a somebody for everybody, and limiting yourself by race, religion or something like that just limits your chance of finding somebody you really like. Don't knock it till you try it.
Have you ever been in an interracial relationship? Have other opposed it?
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Love is colorblind.
I would also be very lonely if I had to date someone from my own race. Doesn't tend to happen.
Because the Black girls are just so close-minded, right?
:-/
The only type of person I've been looking for all of my life is a guy that's:
Nice, smarter than me, and has goals (and a great genetic composition.)
found those things in my Hubby. And, after I did, I didn't go knocking on my race because he was something different. He stands out the most among ANYONE I've ever met--- not just Black men, or White men, or faeries.
Everyone always talks about how many people hate on them dating inter-racially. Maybe they're not "hating." Maybe they're just annoyed with how you flaunt your dislike/differences when among others who physically resemble you.
You're just SO much better, right?Ha.
I don't mind race. I just prefer taller men. so I filter out all the tall men from each race and I'm more drawn to them first. I don't exclude them completely, because there are a few guys, who were shorter than I'd like, who caught my attention, but they aren't my first choice is what I'm saying. here's what I notice in this order: height, face, smile, body, style, then after the attraction and we talk, then his voice, personality, values, etc.
I'm about 50% Indian, but I don't find Indian men attractive at all and I have yet to be interested in an Indian man. I don't hold anything against them and I don't avoid them-I'm just not interested in them. I tend to be interested in men of mostly European descent (maybe it's the German/Irish/English part of me) but I don't go looking for men of a certain race or nationality. If I like you, I like YOU, not your heritage or the color of your skin.
My last three girlfriends were white. I don't want to date an Asian chick...I'm pretty sure somehow, we'll be related.
If we allow interracial marriage then where does it end??? We have to allow humans to marry animals. Mom's to marry there own sons and daughters, and turtles to marry elephants. Oops I forgot that is the same argument the religious are using against gay marriage that they learned from the slave owners who used the same argument. The bible is so "wise" "Slaves, obey your masters" Ephesians 6:5 LMFAO!
I've never dated a white guy, and my friends don't understand why I am not attracted to white guys... I guess that's just how it's been.
It's fun! I get exposure to all sorts of culture that I don't get in my family.
I'm in one now for the rest of my life: my wife is Korean. At first, Mom, Dad, and Big Brother were worried. After they met my Lady, they fell right in love wioth her, and have continued so for the last six-and-a-half years. Ditto that for all of my friends and extended family....
We're all a part of the same human race are we not? Simply skin color and cultural upbringing differences. Cultural differences I see as harder to find a balance with but anythings possible. But "race", we are all human beings so you and everyone else who is on about this still, need to move forward.
I haven't dated inter-racially, but I have dated inter-ethnically meaning I've only dated Asian guys of various ethnicities. I wouldn't rule out dating someone who was not Asian, though. However, I'm interested in Asian guys because there's this connection between us. Cheesy, I know, but that's what I feel.
funny, this is the first i've heard of it being a big deal in a LOOOOOOONG time. maybe it's just you.. scratch that.. it's just you.
yeah you sound kind of racist though? i really don't give a shit about interracial relationships, as long as the people are happy. i don't think most people do? this post you sound like you're going out of your way to say you don't like people of your own race though, which is kind of silly.
@Insomnia_Pickles_XtraTomato@xanga - @iones_island@xanga - ditto.
I am in an interracial relationship. I support them 100%. I am Indian in decent and my boyfriend is European. He loves me for who I am. Though, the only thing is, I do sometimes feel insecure about the difference. There is that bit of fear that I have to live up to or outshine other women of his race but, that's my own personal hurdle to jump over. Other than that, there is nothing wrong with them. In fact, it's a lot of fun just introducing each other to our culture. (:
@lonelystrangergirl@xanga - wow that's a lot of pent up anger in that comment.
I've never been in a non-interracial relationship! lol Not on purpose, just the way it is.
@jna713@xanga - Or maybe it's the way you read it. :-/
@Monica Bryant@facebook - i agree with almost everything you've said here. disclaimer, i'm a bitter angry antisocial creep so have no intentions on dating, but if i did skin would matter a great deal.. I would never date a woman who didn't have skin.
I'm white and my boyfriend is Mexican and I am so so happy. But at the same time there are things that suck about it. Such as, my dad is so racist I have yet to tell him, and we've been together for a while, and while most of my boyfriend's family speaks English, we have a hard time understanding each other sometimes, and other members of his family I can't talk to at all :/ But its something we deal with because we are so happy with each other. Race doesn't matter. I have wondered at times though, if we were to get married and have kids, our kids would probably be bilingual, and I can not learn Spanish for the life of me. I failed in high school and in college :/ So that would be interesting. I think I'm going off topic now, so back to the point.... Date who you want, like other people have said, love is color blind. I've had three boyfriends, one was black, one was white, and the guy I'm with now is Mexican. I date the person, not an ethnicity. :)
Love is love
"I was the kid who spoke to a black girl and was told back that I was better suited for a white girl"
This is really horribly and unbelievably sad.This isn't malicious racism, but it's racism none the less. We still have a long way to go, don't we?