I've been told I'm the most hated girl in town and even my own family hates me. Boys usually want a quickie from me and that's just how I roll. I'm talked about by people in high school all the way up to nursing homes. I'm not allowed to be seen in certain bars, I'm barred from the library because I was too mouthy, and I even got told to shut my mouth and keep my legs shut with glue.
I admit I can be a mouthy bitch and a "slut" if that's what you'd call a girl who enjoys promiscuous sex, but not one person wants to be seen around me as a friend and it bothers me because I'm just being myself. They're all afraid they might get a bad name simply by association. I've been pushed around and taunted throughout town, being called the "town slut" simply because I like dressing sexy and am not ashamed of having casual sex.
How can I even make friends with anyone if I have such a "bad" reputation? Do I have to move to another town?
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being "you" means being loud and rude? is that really what you think defines you? maybe you should really think about what you value.
I can think of two ways for you to find more friends: You could work on being more polite, or you could actively seek out people who like you for who are now.
first world problems
You are you no matter what you think, say, or do. "Being yourself" is no excuse for being a bad you ("bad" in this sense doesn't imply "naughty" or "unpopular", but "bad" as in something you don't enjoy being).
"I've been pushed around and taunted throughout town, being called the
"town slut" simply because I like dressing sexy and am not ashamed of
having casual sex."
If you don't enjoy being pushed around and taunted throughout town, you obviously don't enjoy dressing sexy or being unashamed of having casual sex, because those are direct cause-and-effect.
If you don't like the effects of the things you are doing, stop being the cause of them and find a more enjoyable hobby.
You know what's badass?
Knitting.
You see, there is no such thing as "enjoying casual sex".
What you enjoy is SEX. Welcome to real life. Everyone enjoys sex.
Stop making it casual. Turn it into an occasion and I guarantee you'll enjoy (and appreciate) it more.
You can be "who you are". No one is obligated to like that person. And from the sounds of it, I don't blame them.
Is this real?
@my0615@xanga - my thoughts exactly
It is fiction.
Try Craigslist. I am sure there are some women out there who wouldn't mind having a friend who is a self-admitted bitch and that may fool around with with her brother, boyfriend, brother, uncle, third cousin on her father's side, and anyone else with a functioning penis. I doubt most people hate you for the way you dress or sexual behavior. You are not the only woman where you live that's up for a "good time" or who likes to show off her body. Your inability to make friends is likely due to your personality. I doubt people choose not to associate with you because they are afraid they'll ruin their reputation. People don't hang with you because you've given enough people a reason not to like you.
@my0615@xanga - its gospel x
@laceyx - doubtful
I can't give over how many bullies have accumulated on this website. I don't think the right response should be degrading someone even further. Holy hell.
you're like the B in Apt 23. I watched that tv show and her roommate and nerdy next door neighbor don't hate her, but want to hang out with her, because they think she is cool in their own way. I watch the show because dawson is so cute
the episode where her stalker makes a comic called "tall girl, no panties" about the bitchy slut is funny. I thought the show was lame at first, but dawson is soooo cute and he's her wingwoman and made her look "better" lol then her stalker admires her geeky friend and makes a new comic called, "blonde girl talks too much, loves bowling" or something like that, and steals her spotlight by taking over her stalker admirer's heart
then the bitch is sad that she'll be forgotten since she's an attention whore, so her roomie draws a comic about her. people probably don't want to hang out with you because you embarrass them. you don't seem to have public etiquette and common courtesy. you don't respect the library's quiet rules. you're not suppose to be mouthy at the library
save that for the spin the bottle game
I lived at my previous place for about 7 years and barely knew my neighbors, because I can't stand them. they park their car illegally at the apt's driveway, dump their trash everywhere, play their music loudly in the early morning while yapping their mouths when some people have to get up for work/school- some of my other neighbors have kids. they don't give a crap about anyone but themselves, and disrespects personal boundaries or noise level disturbance, which is their choice, but also our choice not to like their inconsiderate attitude. some people can't stand you and you can't stand them. but there's someone out there for you lol I'm glad that I'm part of the home owner's association and we live in a strict and quiet as a haunted house neighborhood that looks like a hollywood movie set or wisteria lane
my new coworkers are so nice that I felt an urge to buy them gifts lol I hated my previous coworkers because they were vindictive bossy bitches. my new coworkers are so understanding and likeable. they see things from my perspective as well as their own. they know how to win people over. you don't care to win people over because you like being "you", so why does it matter if they like you or not
@laceyx -
Even if this is a troll post, I feel like there are people out there
who are like this. There's a line between being "who you are" and just
not being a nice person. If you want to be negative and rude to other
people, you have to accept the fact nobody wants to be around you. Why
would they want to be?
The fact is though, that you're probably
what... 16 at the most? Wait til you grow up and get over all this angst
and none of it will matter... trust me.
@ask_ashleyyy@xanga - perfect comment.
your hair is so voluminous in your profile picture.
well start by changing the way you look. try to look less slutty.. and look at your profile description of yourself! you called yourself a slutty girl! are you serious? if you're slutty, that's ok, but no one should know that! why would u tell everyone that? you're obviously proud to be a slut. just look less trashy and start having manners.. people will realize that you've changed.
Am I the only one who looked at the profile pic and thought "OMG ITS MISDREAVUS, WHERE IS MY ULTRA BALL"
@QuantumStorm@xanga - I can't unsee that now!
You can choose how you live your life.
You can't choose how people will react to those choices.
If it means enough to you, how other people treat you will not matter.
NO ONE actually gets "accepted"...there are simply varying levels of compliance.
Frankly, this reads like a 14 year old prank...so make your choices, or not.
I think you're going to have to move... But seriously... If you're in the library, STFU. That's not just your town's library. That's everywhere. There's a time and place for everything. You can be yourself, but just realize that not everyone is going to appreciate it. However, being yourself doesn't mean you have to act so consistently that you can't adjust to something as little as using your indoor voice at the library. You can get mouthy all you want, just GTFO before you do.
I'd...probably move to the city? And out of the south? It's not like people dislike you for any besides who you are and your personality, so I really don't feel bad for you (as opposed to people disliking you because "I look weird" or "my mother was a crack whore", things you shouldn't be ostracized for). Either change the personality or as I said, move where you can find "your kinda people" who won't mind your loud mouth and promiscuous nature.
1) Always keep your opinions to yourself until you're asked - no one really cares on top you make yourself seem foolish.
2) Dress appropiate for the right occassion. - note the difference between classy and trashy !!
3) Promiscious sex is great - but only with your better half. If you're as nymphomatic as I am, it feels 1000000x orgasmic with the right chemistry of love
4) If everyone is mentioning the same thing towards you, take it as an advice. - They can possibly be right.
5) Transform yourself. - Self-respect would earn respect from others.
Hope it helped
@my0615@xanga - I was going to say basically the same thing o.O
Also, what is the point in this post, if it happens to be real anyways?
look, no one kicked you out of the library for being slutty. so it's not the promiscuous sex rep you need to worry about, it's the rest of the package.... no pun intended :D
you can also move to a big city. there are so many sluts, the people on the street will be hard pressed to remember your name let alone the old folks whose memory isn't that hot anyways. plus, with so many people, you are bound to find other birds of a feather.