Wednesday, 27 June 2012
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Made Up Relationships
Gollum agrees with me. Barefaced chic is horribly under-rated. I see couples everyday, and wonder if the boyfriend has ever “seen” their girlfriend. I don’t mean without their clothes on, I mean with a naked face. In the 90s Linda Evangelista didn’t get out of bed for less than $10, 000. But how many ladies in the 00s live out their relationships without mascara?Well I do most of the time, so that’s one. But I think I’m an outlier. I think overuse makes the magic of makeup mundane. Maybelline and MAC might disagree. But do we need makeup day in, day out, night in, night out?
Maybe TV shows lie. But if girls actually wake up early to put makeup on before their boyfriend sees them, I want to cry.
I’m all for looking good for your partner, but there’s a time in a relationship when I just want to be undone, unbrushed and bare faced. It’s not about letting yourself go. It’s not about shitting with the bathroom door open because you’re “comfortable.” It’s about cutting the bullshit, and looking like “you.”
I don’t want to see so much effort on our faces. Because I can’t help thinking: Do we even know what our relationships look like? Do you have a “made up” relationship?
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you ever see that backwards seinfeld episode where george meets some chick with thick boots (making him appear taller), so he decides he can never see her without them on? same concept. when i meet a girl, she is probably wearing make-up (otherwise why would i have asked her out?), so if she has any decency, she'll have it on every time she sees me after that, too.
i love make-up. and heels, too. once in a while i meet a girl who says she genuinely enjoys wearing heels. that's like...instant love for me. <3
edit// i just thought of an amazing compromise. girls can skip out on the make-up, and in exchange, i get to let my back hair grow out. i mean, as long as we're all being real with each other, right?
Rule Number One: always be straight-forward about who you are and who you want to be.
That is one of the general rules in my life.
Meh, I don't think guys care too much whether their GF/wife wears make up or not. Women do it for themselves or to impress other women.
Way to be! I don't ever, ever wear foundation or powder or anything of the sort. Too much work, doesn't look like me, and just...weird. I wear eyeshadow a lot and almost always wear eyeliner...but thats really it. And those aren't even all the time.
Its scary when women take their make up off if they wear it 100% of the time.
"Meh, I don't think guys care too much whether their GF/wife wears make up or not. Women do it for themselves or to impress other women." - @nonurbusinessyo@xanga
^ What he said.
I hate this "what they really look like" bs. People can do whatever they want to look like whatever they want and that is still what they really look like. Clothes, tattoos, hair cuts/colors, even -gasp- MAKE UP. I don't see why it's so demonized.
I don't wear makeup. I briefly wore makeup during one year in college. I had the marilyn manson/panda eyes and scared the beejebus out of my grandma
I also wore stripper heels when I was in high school. don't ask why
not to class though. I wore my stripper outfit to the school dances
and they let me into the dance, so it's all good
an aZn guy, who I was really into had a fixed up car and he was in a car team. I was like those rap vid skanks
I listened to happy hardcore music and dressed like a candy kid/raver before the "scene kids" term was coined. rofl I feel old, yet I'm still in my 20's. I'm past that phase and I'm back to my plain jane self. I'm not that plain. I'm plain yet stylish, so I look sleek without overdoing it
the only thing I do regularly to keep myself looking good is put on lotion on my entire body
so my skin remains youthful and moisturized
I look like I'm in high school. the older men at my work stopped by my desk to check me out
they're wondering who is the jailbait looking new office girl
LOL. I think some of the guys I "dated" in my 20s never saw me without make up. If I were to ever become single again, I am sure I'd wear make up more often but I wouldn't be fanatical about it.
who cares.
I don't have the time or patience for constant makeup, nor do I have the lifestyle for it. Foundation is not going to last through multiple martial arts and a shift of sandwich making, nail polish won't last more than five minutes into my next art project, and my jewelry will come off as soon as I'm doing anything remotely active.
I'll shave my body hair because I dislike the feel of it, I'll wear laundered situation-appropriate clothes, and I'll maintain good hygiene. If someone requires more than that from me to date me, they can move on to someone else.
Besides, it's better for your skin not to constantly put stuff on it.
took a while to be comfortable being bare with my bf, but i remembered that guys love the "clean just got out of the shower" look....
More often than not, I don't wear makeup around my boyfriends. Makeup makes my skin so awful, so I just go without it. If they don't think I'm pretty without it, they can fuck themselves.
@Gorrific@xanga - I agree 100%.
I like to wear makeup. I do sometimes go without it. But I feel like I look better with it. And I don't think that makes me insecure or whatever else it's supposed to make me.
i've seen females these days who wears pounds and pounds of makeup while out with their boyfriends who on the other hand, clearly...does not care about their looks nor bother spending time to look as good as their girlfriends. i can't stand little girls these days catching on it too and theyre skin is still young and flawless. it's sad to see them destroy their porcelain young skin with this media washed bs that beauty is within the layers of makeup! i didn't start wearing makeup till i was 21 and even with the boyfriends i had, i only had em on when we planned to go out or be at a party with friends. other than that at home i am bare! (no makeup). and make up i mean just eye liner. i didn't start using full on make up (such as: primer, blush, foundation, powder, etc) until i was 22-23. i'm 26 now and i only use mascara, eyebrow filler, eyeliner and chapstick. i discovered that piling on heavy foundations all over my face was not healthy for my skin and was breaking me out.but mostly, i felt more like i was putting up a front than allowing people i meet to know who i truly am underneath!
i mean, some chicks do look pretty with make up on, but also i see it as art how cool it is to see the various things you can do to alter your look with makeup. some with makeup it enhances their natural beauty (of course i'm talking about those who knows the proper way to apply makeup, not just anyone.) my boyfriend now who i've been with for four years doesn't like it when i apply too much makeup. he's used to seeing me with just mascara and eyeliner, but of course he loves me more without. so for the guys, they all have different tastes just like the first guy who commented on this post. and as for the ladies, we all use em for different reasons. i don't have a problem with em..just as long as you know how to apply them..and also you're not using em in the wrong way (i.e: MEDIAs).
I have mixed feelings about this post...with all due respect don't preach how people should or shouldn't act in their relationship..it's exactly that "THEIR" relationship. Just because a girl puts on a full face of makeup every day doesn't make her any less down to earth..and just because a girl doesn't wear makeup in front of her bf doesn't make her a good person. If beauty is about what's on the inside then who cares if the girl chooses to wear makeup?
Some women like to wear makeup. Some people are attracted to women who makeup.
Some women don't like to wear makeup. Some people are attracted to women without makeup.
It's all about finding what works for you and your partner.
My real 2c is that makeup is bad, because you always end up eating that stuff, and it tastes TERRIBLE. Lip gloss included, don't get me started on that "oh it's artificial cherry so it's good" load of #*(%.
@Gorrific@xanga - agreed! I'm kind of sick of people telling that i'm not confident or i don't think i'm beautiful because I wear makeup.
It's like an accessory - I don't need it, but I like it. Like fashion - I don't need it, but I like it.studies say guys prefer natural looking girls for relationships, and made up girls for hookups apparently
i do it natural and sometimes will go out without makeup but i dont like to do that often. its only cover up, that powder over it, lip gloss and sometimes eye shadow.
i think messing around with looks can be fun though, but all in moderation. with some people its an art. i never got too into it, but i don't think everyone who gets really into it is necessarily self conscious although we all know those types. at the same time thats not really other peoples business.
I love wearing makeup, I wear it all the time, NOT because Im insecure or "fake", I put it on like I would my clothes, its an accessory to me.
For a long time though, I was insecure. I have dark circles under my eyes that are hereditary, and it always made me feel ugly or unappealing. I was with my (now ex) boyfriend for 6 years. Each morning, yes I'd get up and put makeup on and get dressed to look nice for him, because I never wanted my appearance to slip, even in the older years. I wanted to always let him know I was putting in effort for him. At the end of the day though, I'd take a shower, wash it all off, and change into my pajamas, bare faced and all, and he loved me anyway.
Basically: If you're out and about, there's nothing wrong with wearing makeup and looking nice for your partner, and nothing wrong with being comfortable having a naked face in front of him at the end of the day.
i wore it once in a while when i first met my now husband but really only for weddings and going out to nice places. I cant anymore i can hardly wear sunblock on my face, if anything i mean ANYTHING gets near my eyes the pores or tearduct clog up and i end up with a very painful sty for days EVERYTIME. At first i thought it was just the makeup i had so i threw it out and got new stuff, nope still happened, i tried a few different brands...still happened so i gave up. He never really cared tho all he asks for is occasional red lipstick cuz he loves it and that i use the 20 bottles of nail polish once in a while lol.
If you're living with someone or sleeping over at their house regularly, they're going to see you without make-up eventually. I barely wear make-up and I don't think I look that different without it, except my eyes might look a bit more tired if I don't have mascara/eyeliner on.
I don't wear make up.. can't stand the feel of the stuff on my skin.. my pores like to breathe (plus I have great skin and look younger!).. the only thing ever painted on me is my toenails (and those are usually blue, dark pink, red or sparkly green).
@TheNotoriousGOD@xanga - I fully support this compromise.
Nope. I only go out with guys who met me and asked me out when I was not wearing make-up. That way there are no surprises the morning after because there's no way I'm waking up earlier.