I have a friend who's in a long-distance relationship. She hates that she gets jealous, but her boyfriend loves it.
Is that crazy? Perhaps. Jealousy has a bad rap. But is jealousy ever healthy?
I think it can be. But there's an extremely thin line between crazy jealous and healthy jealousy, and it has to do with how you express it.
Say your S/O has a bunch of friends of the opposite sex, which makes you uncomfortable and jealous. The healthy way to deal with this? Let your S/O know how you feel, get your S/O to introduce you, and choose to trust him/her as much as possible. Crazy jealousy is to freak out, forbid your S/O from seeing them, and go through his/her phones to make sure he/she hasn't.
An example of crazy jealousy
Another interesting facet of jealousy is its gender divide. A girl who gets jealous is often construed as a crazy b*tch. But a guy's jealousy is considered cute, a natural expression of his male possessive streak.
Perhaps this has to do with the fact that girls fight over guys in a much subtler way than guys fight over girls. When guys get into a physical fight, it's healthy and 'manly.' But when girls go through phones, or get physical with other girls, it's 'crazy.'
This shouldn't be the case. The healthiest way to deal with jealousy (and almost any problem in a relationship, really) is to communicate your fears to your partner. Fighting and stalking each other's cell phones is crazy - whether you're a girl or a guy.What do you think? Is jealousy ever healthy? Are men and women treated differently in concern to how they express their jealousy in relationships?
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