Tuesday, 19 June 2012
... also known as The Pronoun Switch: You know a relationship’s serious when your eternally single friend suddenly switches from “I” to “we.”
You know the drill. “I” just doesn’t feel right anymore once your significant other sets up home in your life’s living room. Before you know it “we” check whether “we’re” free for dinner, even if your boyfriend isn’t invited. But is it cute or plain annoying?
Here are some pros and cons for the Pronoun Switch.It’s by no means comprehensive.
1) Sign of commitment: It shows you really think of yourself as one half of a whole. 1, 2, 3, CUTE.
2) Saves time: Instead of saying, “I’ll check and Bob will check,” when you get invited somewhere you just say, “We’ll check.” Word economy is good, especially if you’ve just spent 30 minutes talking about Bob to Sue, who doesn’t know if she gives a fuck or not about your relationship.
3) Convincing: Maybe your mom doesn’t like who you’re with. My tactic for this is saying “We” as often as possible in conversation to ram home the fact that you are in a relationship that you don’t plan on leaving.
1) Loss of autonomy: Sure, you’re in a relationship but, as stated above, your boyfriend wasn’t actually invited to your girlie cocktail night, so there’s no need for him to check his availability, even if you do have a “His and Hers” calendar.
2) Inappropriate use: “We” has a time stamp element. You can trade in “I” for “we” after two weeks of being with Bob. Not cool.
3) Irritating: Your best friend has just broken up with her long-term boyfriend. She’s just become an “I” again, so she doesn’t want to hear about what a wonderful time “we” (as in you and Bob) had at the weekend.
What do you think? Do you have a friend who rattles on about, “we this, we that,” in an irking manner. Are you an eternal “I?” Have you never noticed the Pronoun Switch?