Monday, 18 June 2012
Does anyone remember a year or two ago when Usher said, "the reason there are lesbians is because there aren't enough men to go around?" I must admit the first time I heard it, I didn't get it either.
But the more I think about it, the more I think that he didn't deserve the verbal ass-whooping that people gave him on AOL and everywhere else. I realized that he meant to say that some women become lesbian because men aren't trying to be good men to their women anymore. It had nothing to do with the amount of men there were, it had to do with the amount of guys who can even consider themselves "men."
Even if this may not seem the least bit true to those who are gay or lesbian by default, I have been noticing something pretty funny within the community.
Has anyone kind of noticed when a girl or a boy suddenly turns bisexual? Perhaps it's only me, but I think when you are in high school or old enough to notice your sexuality, you should have a good clue as to who you are already, no? But in my experience, when some girls turn bi (as opposed to simply being bi), it's mostly because men don't really put in the work to turn on, to romance, or to convince their woman that we are even worth the time they give us.
Maybe the sex wasn’t good, maybe they don’t do those little nothings for them often, etc.
As for the women, it seems like for most of them, there is some kind of romance that they're talking about. (By romance, I don't just mean love. I mean a certain charisma.) Most girls are nurturing, loving, soft and beautiful in their very own way. It feels like they put in some kind of effort to be what some won't be.
Now, I’ve always been one to shake my head whenever readers constantly fail to look at the context below what someone says. I personally don’t blame them as much seeing as how Usher’s words could have meant anything, but what he’s trying to say is that to get a woman to like you or to think you are worth their time, it would help to be more of a man.