Thursday, 14 June 2012
A while back I saw some sort of news story on the Today Show about long-distance marriages and I've pretty much been thinking about it ever since. At first I thought, "how crazy? Who would want to do that?" Then I realized, circumstances permitting, it really isn't that different from any standard long-distance relationship. It just involves vows and a stronger implication that the couple will stay together for many years to come (but even that is a little questionable with the way divorce rates have grown over the course of the last few decades as well as the issues surrounding same-sex marriage).
The truth is, I'm all for marriage in a fairly traditional but modern sense. A couple in love (man and woman, woman and woman, pig and goat, I really couldn't care less what you marry) should marry to solidify their relationship. They should build a home together. As you already know from all of my same-sex marriage articles, I love marriage and I think everyone has the divine right to it.
Yet, I really do have to wonder about this long-distance marriage stuff. I've always done the best I can to see things for what they are and recognize that what may not work for me can certainly work for someone else. I know that long-distance relationships work. I've been in one for a few years now. So why can't long-distance marriages work? As long as said couple has the means and the capabilities to meet as often as they see fit, there are few reasons why it wouldn't work.
I also think if and when the couple decides to have children, then it's probably time to compromise and find a place to live together. Once children are in the plans, it's necessary to live together for a time before starting a family.
So, long-distance works for them in their marriage, but do they know how to coincide under one roof? That's a whole different kind of relationship.
What are your thoughts on long-distance marriages?